In The Secret, we are told that the process to get what we want is: (1) ask, (2) believe, and (3) receive.
But a lot of people have trouble with the believing part. I get questions all the time about whether we need to believe the law of attraction really works, or that our manifestations can come to us.
How necessary is the whole believe part of the equation? If you can't believe, are you doomed to never be able to create the kind of life you want to live?
Find out in this video.
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[00:00:01] Hey everyone, this is Brandon Olivares from Co-Creation Coaching.
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With that said, today's topic is, do you need to believe in the law of attraction for it to work?
It's a really big thing, because a lot of people really harp on about the importance of believing in the law of attraction. It's even like the second step of the three common steps that people teach of the law of attraction: ask, believe, receive.
So it's pretty big. It's very, very, very emphasized by a lot of people.
But is it really necessary?
It's Hard to Start Trusting in the Law of Attraction
[00:01:22] The reason we ask if it's necessary is because it can really be discouraging if you don't have that belief in the law of attraction or in the fact that you can have what you want.
Because a lot of people who are intellectual will have this sort of catch-22 going on in their minds, where they want to get what they want to get, obviously, and will believe in the law of attraction once they start seeing it work for them, but according to this teaching—this common teaching—they can't get it until they do believe. So it's sort of, like I said, a catch-22.
What do you do when you want to see if the law of attraction works, but you can't see if it works until you believe it works?
And that's why a lot of skeptics are so against this, because they say it's just wishful thinking, which it's definitely not.
But it can be hard to trust in something like this. It's such a new way of living—the law of attraction is such a new way of living, that a lot of us aren't used to.
There's that old adage: “I'll believe it once I see it.” But the law of attraction sort of asks for the opposite. It says, “You won't see it until you believe it.”
And in a sense that's true, and so we're going to be talking about that. What do you do when you don't believe it? What do you do when you can't get to that point right now—when you don't believe? Are you doomed to have just a regular life, and not be able to create deliberately? What if you can't believe? What if you're logical, and your mind gets in the way, and you can't trust right now? What do you do?
Is Belief Necessary?
[00:03:22] So is belief really necessary?
And the answer is really yes and no. But we're just going to say no right now, and I'll explain some caveats later.
But it's really not necessary, and I'll explain why this is later on, how the law of attraction really does work. It's sort of just a shortcut when you do believe it.
But belief really isn't absolutely necessary.
So I know this is a common misconception, like I said, it's the second step of the ask, believe, receive steps. So it can be surprising: why isn't belief totally necessary to get things to work out for you?
You Are Always Manifesting
[00:04:14] The first thing to realize is that you have always been manifesting, since the day you were born—even since before then—even since the time before birth, when you were looking at this life, and planning it out, and deciding what kind of parents you wanted, what kind of family you wanted, what souls you wanted to be with, what experiences you wanted.
You manifested all of that in this life, from before you were even born.
Once you were born, you manifested everything. Every time your parents fed you, every time you got clothes, every time you were able to go to school, every time you got a new toy.
As kids, a lot of us were really, really good at manifesting, even though we didn't know what it was called. But a lot of us were really good at getting what we wanted to get. Unless you had limiting beliefs installed, like it's bad to want things, or something like that. But a lot of us were really good at getting what we wanted to get.
Even today, everything that you see around you is a manifestation. So many people forget this—that the air you breathe is a manifestation. The fact that the Sun rose this morning is a manifestation. The house or apartment that you live in is a manifestation. The computer you use, and the internet connection you have, is a manifestation. The electricity that you have. The food that you eat. All of that's a manifestation, from the smallest thing to the biggest thing. Every single thing that you have—that you experience—every friend that you have, all of those is a manifestation, and even more than that, that is a topic for another day. All of that is a manifestation.
I know that's pretty surprising, to think of that in that way.
And when you manifested these things, that's exactly what you did. You can't get anything that you haven't manifested.
Did you have to visualize? Did you have to believe in the law of attraction? Did you have to affirm? No, obviously not.
So there's obviously something missing here, because of all the times you get these things, without even really trying to, or working out how to believe in it, or anything like that. They just happen.
Hopefully that shows you, belief really isn't necessary. But if that's true, then what's really going on? Why do people say belief is necessary? And how does the law of attraction really work?
The Law of Attraction Responds to Your Vibration
[00:07:07] The answer to that is that the law of attraction—it's not responding to your thoughts, or to your beliefs, or anything like that. It's responding to your vibrational state.
And vibration is one of those words that's thrown around a lot, that people might not really get what it means. But it's just basically that the Universe is reflecting back to you whatever you are feeling emotionally.
If you're feeling happy, you're getting things in life that feel like happiness to you. If you feel fearful, you're getting things in life that feel like fear to you. If you're an angry person, you get more and more excuses to be angry. We all know this: the perpetually angry person who everything that happens is a reason to get angry.
So the Universe is validating what you choose to feel every day, and that's your vibrational state. That's what's really going on. It brings you whatever is a match to that vibrational state, and the more you focus on that, the more things you get that are like that—that feel the same way.
So that's really what it is. It's not belief. It's not blind faith. It's not anything like that.
These things can be useful tools, but I prefer to teach people the underlying principles behind the law of attraction. How this all really works, and why it works the way it does.
So I like to clarify these things. What really is necessary to get what you want to get in life? So it is the vibrational state.
If you were to feel good—if you were to be in a happy, peaceful, joyful state for most of your time, even if you never thought about what it is you wanted, you would get all of your wanted manifestations. You would.
There's really no need to ask, to do anything like that. You would get everything that you want.
The Universe Already Knows All of Your Desires
[00:09:14] So the other thing to keep in mind here is that the Universe already knows what you want. It already has all your desires cataloged and stored up for you.
The moment that you have a desire, there's a reality out there—a parallel reality—where that desire is already fulfilled and being enjoyed by you—by another version of you.
Your only job is to get to that parallel reality where you can also enjoy that desire. That's your only job.
So the moment you have that desire, it's created. The Universe has expanded a little bit, and created that desire in reality for you, just not necessarily in this reality yet, but you can get there.
So you don't have to even ask, you don't have to force things to happen, you don't have to try to believe. It's just, once you feel good, all the things that the Universe knows that you desire, that it's been queuing up since childhood, are going to start coming to you.
And this happens with a lot of people, where they start feeling good—they start being happier and more peaceful—and then all of these wonderful things start happening that they asked for years ago. And that's why, because all this stuff has been queued up for you.
Abraham calls it the Vortex. And I don't tend to use that word too often, just because I find it more confusing than anything for a lot of people, but they call it the Vortex. It's the place that all your desires are stored up for you, waiting for you to get to a place where they can come to you—waiting until you are a vibrational match for them to come to you.
Do you have to believe to be a vibrational match to these desires? No! They don't check in to see if you believe in it yet. All you have to do is be a vibrational match.
If you want more money, do you have to believe that more money is possible? Not necessarily. That's an easy way, but no, not necessarily.
All you have to do is feel good right now about everything, not even about the topic of money—just about anything. It's the vibration.
I had a podcast, I recommend going to see it, about is there a precise vibration you need to find to have your desire come to you? Is there a precise vibration for money? Is there a precise vibration for health?
And in essence I said, sort of, but you don't need to really worry about it. All you need to worry about is you feeling good and getting to a good-feeling place, a high vibrational place, where all of your desires will become a match to who you are now.
Or better said, you will become a match to all of your desires: the money, the relationships, the job, the vacation, the house, whatever, the car—all of it. You will become a match to all of it, without needing to believe in it. Without needing to believe the law of attraction is possible.
How do you think millionaires are made? How do you think billionaires are made? How do you think Bill Gates and Warren Buffett got the billions of dollars that they have? It wasn't by studying the law of attraction, as far as I know with those two cases.
Yes, there are some actors, some celebrities, who did use it. I think of Jim Carrey, I know used it to get all of his success.
But a lot of people have been successful who haven't used the law of attraction as such—not by name, but they know the principles. They know that they have to feel good. They know that they have to reach a state of happiness, of peace, before their desires can come to them. And that's exactly what they do.
So, no you don't have to believe in the law of attraction for good things to happen to you.
If you look around, if you know people who are successful, even if people scoff at the law of attraction, but they are still successful. They are really still using it. They're still using it in their life without even knowing it, just because they know how to feel good—they know how to align with the vibration of what they want.
When Can Belief Be Useful?
[00:13:30] Where does belief come in, then? Where does belief come in, in all of this?
Because it can be necessary. Like I said, it's yes and no. It can be a definite part.
There's a difference to outline here.
And that difference is basically, if you can look at your desire, or if you can just in general feel good without believing that your desire is coming, or without believing the law of attraction necessarily, then it doesn't matter if you believe it. You will still get it.
So if you think about more money or something like that, and you think, “I don't know if it's going to happen,” but it doesn't really matter to you and you just decide to feel good anyway—you're not like real attached to it or anything, it'll come. Even if you're not totally convinced it's going to come. It will come, because you feel good, because you're in a high-vibrational state. You don't have to try to force belief.
But what happens with a lot of people, where they get stuck—and this is where belief can help—where a lot of people get stuck is that they look at their money situation for example—any manifestation will work here—but they look at their money situation, and say, “Oh no, it's not going to work. I can't get more money, and I'm going to be poor forever, and this is horrible!” And they use that to feel bad. They use that as an excuse to feel bad.
So that's where it can kind of backfire, is they look at it, they really need it, but they don't really believe it can happen, and that disbelief just causes them to feel bad.
It's not the disbelief that holds the desire away from them. It is feeling bad. It's the low vibrational state, which is holding their desires away from them. That's a really important distinction.
Again, you could look at your desire, and say, “I don't know. Maybe it will; maybe it won't,” or, “It seems unlikely,” but then, you choose to feel good anyway, and it'll happen. I guarantee it'll happen.
So that just depends on you. If you're the type that looks at your desire and doesn't believe in it, and because you don't believe in it, you decide to feel bad, then you might want to work on believing in it.
But how do you get to believe something that is so beyond what seems possible to you?
Trust in Small Things First
[00:16:18] Again, this is something that's a little beyond today's topic, but what I want to say is you can start small.
You don't have to believe you could be a millionaire by tomorrow or something. You can start small, and decide, “Well, I'll try to manifest something small. I'll try to manifest $10. I'll try to manifest a really small thing to me.”
If you start small like that you can really build up your belief. You can start to trust more and more.
That's really what happened to me, because I kind of was put in the situation where I had to trust, but as time went on, I trusted more and more and more and more and more, and some more things could happen to me.
And not because of the trust, but because that trust allowed me to enter a place of feeling good—of a high-vibrational state. That's really what it's all about. So that trust helped me to do that.
So I do recommend developing trust, but you can trust in small ways right now. You can trust in small ways, and build that up.
That's why people usually don't recommend starting off with a big huge desire, because it's just going to—it's like if you go and try to lift weights, and you start with 100 lb., it's not going to work. [laugh] You have to start small.
Or the same thing—I'm a pianist—if you try to start playing the piano and you play a really difficult piece, no, you're not going to be able to do it. You have to start small. You have to start at the beginning. You have to build that up—build up the technique.
And again I'm going to cover at a later date more about how to build belief in something. There's so much more you can do.
But I wanted to show you, it's not necessary if you can detach yourself from the desire. That's really the secret.
If you can detach yourself from the desire, then the belief isn't really necessary.
Because if you can look at your desire and say, “Well I don't know, but it really doesn't matter. I'm just going to feel good anyway, and there's so much other good stuff happening in my life that it really doesn't matter,” you have it made. That's fine; that's great!
But if you can't do that, and it's a really big, huge issue to you and you can't let it go, then you might want to work on developing belief.
But it's not because you believe in it or don't believe in it that makes it work or not work. It is because of your vibrational state. That's the big thing.
I always talk about the emotional guidance system. It's the emotional, vibrational state that makes it work for you.
Get that, no matter if you believe or not, and you will get everything that you desire.
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Thanks everyone for watching, and have a wonderful day!