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I am beginning a new series called, “Live Sessions with Abdullah”. Once a month or so, I will do a free session with a client, and show the result here on video. I hope that by doing this, you can see how the principles I teach can easily be applied to any area of your life, and I also hope that you will come to see how I work with clients one-on-one.
Today my client is having trouble with surrender and trust. He wants to improve his financial situation in life, and he also wants to work on relationships. Due to time restraints, we really only get through the first issue, though I try to lightly touch on the issue of relationships as well.
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Hello everyone! This is Abdullah Ibrahim Olivares with Co-Creation Coaching. I am here today doing a new sort of series I want to start. Once a month or so I want to start working with people one-on-one and showing you, here on YouTube in a video, how it all works. I don’t know if it will be 30 minutes, 45 minutes, I don’t know how long it will be. But my goal here is to show you basically how you can apply these principles, how you can organize your life, because usually one issue is like another. I’m sure, especially with the issues we have going on today, you can identify with most of these issues in your own life, you can apply these same suggestions, even if it’s a little bit of a different situation. And so that’s my goal, that you can apply this to your own life, and I hope you can get as much as you can out of this.
So today we have a client here. I’ll turn it over to him in a second. He’s going to be telling us what he wants to discuss today, and then I will be focusing on speaking to him exclusively after this. I hope that everyone can get what they can out of this, and that you enjoy this.
[to client] Okay so, now to you. If you can tell everyone what the issue is that you’re wanting to discuss. I know that there are two issues. We’re going to get through both of them if we can, so if you want to tell us.
>> CLIENT: Hi everyone. Yes, I wrote to you because I feel like my life is lacking, both in terms of abundance and romance. I tried to get into deliberate creation, I tried feeling good, tried making peace with my emotions, I tried reading some books. So far nothing has really worked very well. I mean, I do feel like I feel better right now than I used to, but I still didn’t get much results. I tried learning to love myself, I followed some bloggers, read some books….
>> ABDULLAH: Okay. So what specific things are you wanting to try to achieve in your life that you’re not seeing right now?
>> CLIENT: Excuse me?
>> ABDULLAH: What specific things are you wanting to try to achieve in your life that you’re not seeing right now?
>> CLIENT: Hmm. I guess I want romance, like the right kind of relationships for me. Other than that, I know I would like to be wealthier, I know I would like to make more money, but right now I just don’t see how I can do that. I am looking for a job, but even then I am not so excited about the idea.
>> ABDULLAH: Yeah, that’s what you said in your questionnaire. You would rather do your own thing where you don’t have to have a job as such.
>> CLIENT: I would. But I know I want it, but I have no idea what it is, like what I can do, or how I can get there?
>> ABDULLAH: Which of these issues would you say is most important to you. I see some things we can work on generally, and then I’m going to go into the specific issues. So would you say the abundance, financial thing, is important to you, or the romance, relationships?
>> CLIENT: Let’s go with the abundance.
>> ABDULLAH: Okay. Yeah.
Okay so I guess what I want to start with… You know I am really restructuring how I do my coaching lately. I’m a spiritual coach. I believe that having a spiritual connection with God, with the Divine, is the most important thing. So I guess my first question to you is, what do you consider to be happiness?
>> CLIENT: Hmm. I guess being happy with yourself, with what you have in your life, and also at the same time feeling proud of what you’re doing, of what you are capable of….
>> ABDULLAH: Okay. The thing I noticed when you were speaking about what you were trying to do… so you went through some books, you did some practices, you tried to feel better with your emotions, make peace with them, and you’re just really not seeing things happen, right? In your life.
So my question to you I guess would be… a lot of times what we’ll do is, we will try to do these processes, these steps, because we want something out of it. So, in order to get money, in order to get a relationship or whatever it might be, we do X, Y, and Z, that is supposed to just make us feel better, but the only reason we’re doing it is to get those things. It’s sort of a nasty little catch 22, because the only time you can really get things out of life, if you will, is when you’re willing to let go of them. I hear all the time people say, “I got it after I was detached from it. After I didn’t need it anymore in my life, I got it.” Right? But what you’re doing from what it sounds like is you are trying to feel better because you want these things. You’re not just trying to feel better because. You’re trying to feel better because you want these things. Would you agree with that? I don’t want to put on you something that’s not there, but from what you told me, it sounds like it. It’s a very common trap.
>> CLIENT: Well yeah, I know. I’d like to feel better in general about my life. But then I do start to feel better, and then I get to thinking, “Okay, so what happens now? Do I get what I want, or does my situation change?” But I find myself not knowing what to do.
>> ABDULLAH: And I think, I’ve talked about this extensively on my blog posts, when we’re trying to get these things—abundance, relationships—I mean they’re very natural things I think we all want in life. We’re trying to fill a part of ourselves that really isn’t being filled by it. Even if you had the job, or just the money, however you want to get that money—even if you had that, even if you had the perfect relationship, you can have those things and feel awful about it. You can have those things and feel really good about it. You can have those things and feel all sorts of different emotions about them. They’re not things that are actually going to make you feel better on their own.
>> CLIENT: I see what you mean.
>> ABDULLAH: So what I try to do with my clients is help you to see that… [interruption] Oops, I’m sorry. Anyway… Sorry about that: I got a call. Anyway, can you still hear me okay?
>> CLIENT: Yep.
>> ABDULLAH: So what I try to help my clients do is to see that they just need to feel better, period. They need to, and lately I’ve been connecting this to a relationship with God, or some kind of… I know that’s a scary word for a lot of people—whatever you see as above you. The thing is I hear you saying you want to be a deliberate creator, and the thing is like with the idea of the law of attraction, people will say, “You have control.” But what I’ve discovered through my own exploration of it is, actually the only way you can have control is by giving up control. And that’s not really a popular thing, because it’s a hard thing to do, right? It’s hard when you want these things, it’s hard to give them up.
And I’m not saying to give them up, like you don’t want them anymore, because you do want them. But I’m saying to admit to yourself, “Something else needs to come first. I need to be detached from these things. Because I’m trying to make them fill a part of my life that they’re just not capable of filling. Once that part of my life is filled, then through the overabundance of peace and happiness in my life, then these things will naturally happen, these things will naturally follow. But when I’m trying to fill my life with these things first, it’s not going to happen.”
It’s sort of like trying to drive a car without gasoline. You know what I mean? It’s not going to happen. You have the car, you have all the working parts, you have everything you need, but you don’t have the fuel.
>> CLIENT: So just feeling good would not be enough in that case?
>> ABDULLAH: Right. I mean, you need to do it because. Basically, when we try to take control of life, it’s because we want something we think we’re not getting. And so what we need to do is surrender. We need to trust. And that’s why I say, it’s so important to have some image of something higher, some higher power, God or whatever, because we need to trust. Because, and I’ve seen this in my own life, I’ve seen this in my clients’ lives, once you do trust, once you say, “All right, I admit I have no control…” You could go out tomorrow and try to get a job, and it’s not in your control whether you get accepted or not. You could try to start a business, and it’s not in your control whether it succeeds or not. You are not in control, no matter how much you want to think you are. That’s the first thing we have to realize.
And so to say, “I admit to myself, there’s something greater that once I let go, will bring these wonderful things in my life. But I can’t have that relationship with that something greater, with God or whatever it is, just because I want those things.” It’s still putting the cart before the horse. And that’s what we tend to do. Like I said, you do this and that and the other thing, in order to get these good things.
So the first thing I would recommend doing is, #1 to see what you already have in your life that’s good, you know what I mean? To see what you already have in your life that is a blessing, that is something you can be grateful for. And #2, just to say, “All right, I cannot do this on my own. I am incapable. I can do certain actions, but whether those actions succeed, or whether they fail, or whether just some random opportunity comes up that I could not have foreseen, but I can’t do that. I need something greater in my life.”
>> CLIENT: So, excuse me. So even if one is a deliberate creator, they still have no control?
>> ABDULLAH: That’s been my experience. And that’s how I kind of… I won’t speak too much about it but if you read my site, I converted to Islam about a month ago. And the path there was realizing, because before that I had a whole bunch of videos on surrender and trust. Because when I was into law of attraction itself, I saw that when I was trying to control the outcome, nothing was happening. I was only getting more failure, more of nothing happening. And when I started to let go, and it was a process of several months of me realizing this and saying, “Okay, I gotta surrender.”
When I was able to let go, then things started to happen, and I realized, “I actually really don’t have control. The only control I have is to let go. And once I let go, these things just happen to me out of the blue that I could not have foreseen, I could not have planned, I could not have orchestrated.” So the only thing you have to do is to get into a place of surrender, to get into a place of believing that God is going to bless you with these things, and then that’s really your job, and whatever practical actions you can do is what you can do. You know what I mean?
So for instance with my business, I do coaching, and I write articles, I write blog posts, I post on Twitter, I post on Facebook… those are the things I do. Those are my practical actions. But that does not equate to clients. You know what I mean? Somehow people show up. Somehow people come and get sessions, or do what you’re doing today, and I had nothing to do with that. And you have to kind of realize that and just trust. I have no idea where the next person’s coming from. I can’t pick someone off the street and force them to come see me. [laugh] I have to just trust.
So you say with deliberate creation, I find it kind of a misnomer, because the only thing you can really do deliberately is to stop trying so hard.
>> CLIENT: I see. And in your experience, did you get everything that you want?
>> ABDULLAH: Yeah I would say so. It’s always a process. And, it’s going to sound like such a copout. Like at this point, there are things that I want, but there’s something more important than that to me, which is that relationship with God. But, yes, in everyday little ways, things just happen. You know what I mean? I’ll get clients, or things will just move, organize themselves in such a way.
Like for instance, I’ll give an example that is kind of, it’s a little example but this stuff can work in small and big ways. But I’m visually impaired. We get our groceries delivered, because we can’t drive to the store. And we ordered this morning for the groceries. And usually when I order Mondays, last time anyway, they came around 1:00, or a little after 1:00. And so I realized this after I had ordered, so I was a little nervous because we don’t have a lot of extra rooms in our house [laugh], so I’m thinking, if they come in the middle of the session, that’d be really bad. And so I’m praying, praying, praying, I have nothing I can do, I can just trust. I’m just praying, “Please let it work out. Let them come a little earlier,” so that it’s not a weird thing. And they ended up coming at 12:00, which usually they don’t do on Mondays.
So again it’s a small little thing. You can say it’s coincidence; you can say it’s chance, whatever. But that’s what happens when you just trust. That’s what happens when you say, “I can’t do anything.” The best I can do is call up and be like, are they on their way? [laugh] But, I can’t do anything.
So yes, things just work out. I’ve found many, many times, if I’m low on money… I’ll give you a good example. I always talk about this example; this was before I was starting to realize all this. Last year, there was a month we were really, really low on money. And there was no way it would have lasted, you know what I mean? And usually I would panic, and usually I would say, “How are we going to get through this month? How are we going to do this?” But I was starting to realize at the time that I had to trust. I didn’t really believe in God at the time or anything. But I said I have to trust in whatever it is. And so I did that. And it was a little bit of panic, but I was trying not to do that too much. And things just came out of the woodwork to help us. Everywhere I turned, things were happening that just helped us along the way, that we did perfectly fine. So that was kind of the beginning of me realizing that I actually can’t do it. I have to trust. I have to surrender to let all this happen.
>> CLIENT: I see.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. That’s really what it’s about.
So my question in the beginning when I asked you, “What is happiness?” Because you can see there are people who have millions of dollars, who have a great relationship, who have a big house and all that, and they’re still not happy. Why is that?
>> CLIENT: Maybe because they want something else? They decided they want something else?
>> ABDULLAH: Right. Right. And it’s always something more. You always want something more than what you have. It’s never enough. If you’re not happy right now, you’re really not going to be happy no matter how much you have, or what you have. Someone could hand you today a million dollars, and if you’re not happy before the million, you’re not going to be happy after the million. You might be elated for a time, but it’s still going to return to that same state. Do you see what I mean?
So you have to work on that happiness apart from the things you want. I’m not telling you that you can’t desire things. That’s a natural part of life. But, that’s not the end goal. That’s not the end-all-be-all of it. You know what I mean? Happiness really is. And lasting happiness, not just, “I got this new thing today so I’m happy.” But something where you can be at peace, something where you can be happy. Do you understand what I’m saying?
>> CLIENT: Yes, yes, definitely I understand.
>> ABDULLAH: So what would you say is your overall emotional state most times?
>> CLIENT: Well sometimes I feel good. Sometimes I feel hopeful. Sometimes, [sigh], not so good. I used to feel depressed. I’m not anymore. I’m not anymore. I found that the more I make peace with my emotions, the better I started to feel really, really quickly. So honestly I really feel great for where I am right now, even if I don’t have all the things I want. I still feel like I have… I’m doing okay at least.
>> ABDULLAH: Good. What is it usually that makes you not feel so good? You said sometimes.
>> CLIENT: When I feel confused about the process. Like, I try to feel good, and then sometimes I feel like, “Okay, I don’t know what I have to do.” Or, I feel good, I apply for a job which seems interesting. I never get any response. I don’t know. Because sometimes I find it hard to understand how I have to feel good, yet at the same time accept negative emotion. I find it hard to balance the two.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. What is your understanding about negative emotion?
>> CLIENT: Repeat your question please?
>> ABDULLAH: What is your understanding about negative emotion? Because you said you have to balance it.
>> CLIENT: Basically I remember I looked into mindfulness for a time. They say emotions just are. They’re not good or bad. They just are. And I try to apply that mantra in life. Emotions just are.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. So you said sometimes you feel confused about the process, about basically where to go with it? Right?
>> CLIENT: [doesn’t hear question]
>> ABDULLAH: So did you hear my question? I was just verifying what you said. So sometimes you feel confused about the process?
>> CLIENT: Yeah, sometimes, yeah. Like sometimes I get to asking, “Look, what do I have to do? Do I have to feel good for an hour, a day, a week, before this works? What is this?” That’s what I find myself asking.
>> ABDULLAH: Do you see my observation earlier that you’re trying to feel good in order that…?
>> CLIENT: Uh huh. I see it.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. What would it be like if you saw your desires, okay those are there, you said, “All right, I am going to let go of needing these things.” Okay so, why do you need them? I know you want these things. But what would it be like if you looked at them and said, “I’m going to let go of needing these things in my life.”
>> CLIENT: It started to feel like relief, like okay I can say, “Okay maybe I’ll never get these, I don’t know,” but at the same time it feels kind of peaceful. Like, okay, I can just live day-by-day. I don’t care then. I can just let my peace. I won’t get anything maybe, or maybe I will, I don’t know. That’s how it feels. Is that surrendering?
>> ABDULLAH: Yes, that would be the first step of surrendering. That would be.
>> CLIENT: The first what, sorry?
>> ABDULLAH: The first step of surrendering.
>> CLIENT: Okay. But at the same time it’s not trusting though, is it? Because I’m seeing, I don’t know if I’m going to get them.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. So what I would say, again I’m going to use God, you integrate that as you need to, or implement that. But firstly you look where you are. “Sometimes I feel good, sometimes I feel bad.” All right. That’s how it is. Right? And then, just like you said, “Maybe I will get these things, maybe I won’t.” But, that’s surrender.
Where the trust comes in is saying, “I know that in the end, God wants me to be happy.” Sometimes things happen in the interim. Sometimes we’re tested, sometimes we have to be patient. But God does want us to be happy, right? And what that looks like, “To me that might look like money and relationships. But I don’t know what that looks like. I’m just guessing.” Right? “I’m just really guessing at what happiness is going to look like for me. And I really have no idea.” Because sometimes we want something, and it is actually not such a good idea for us. And so sometimes it doesn’t happen, and you have to see the blessing in everything that happens. Okay you get denied a job. It’s a blessing in some way, either #1 it’s because it would be bad for you and you didn’t realize it, or #2 it’s a test of patience, that you have to keep trying in some way. And you have to meditate on that, pray about that, see what really that is. But there’s nothing that happens to you that’s not a good thing for you in some way.
And I think that’s a big realization you need to have, because you’re afraid of bad things happening, or good things not happening. But if you see that every experience is a good thing, because God knows exactly what it is you want to have in life. But once you start dictating how it should happen, or that it should happen, or anything else, or even putting those desires before that spiritual relationship, then things will start to move. But in the interim, and always, every experience that happens is a good thing. It’s either a blessing, if it’s something that makes you happy, it’s either a blessing, or it’s a test, or it’s something that wasn’t good for you in the first place, that you’ve avoided. So everything that happens is good.
>> CLIENT: That’s kind of a hard idea to accept.
>> ABDULLAH: I know. It is a hard idea to accept. I know. That’s the whole thing I think behind people wanting this law of attraction thing to be true, because… and in a sense it is, in a sense. But we need to surrender. And we don’t always know what is the best for us, and God does. But people want to control things, because they don’t trust. The law of attraction kind of sprouts from a state of mistrust, because if you knew everything for you was good…
>> CLIENT: Then you wouldn’t need law of attraction.
>> ABDULLAH: You wouldn’t need to control it, right? [laugh] So that’s really what it comes down to. You gotta say, “I’m not the one that knows. I’m not the one that is in control here: no matter how much I think I am in control, I’m not. And something else is. And I have to trust in the benevolence of that Something Else.” Whatever you want to call that. And that’s where you have to get to.
And being grateful for what’s already there. I mean I’m presuming you have a house, you obviously have a computer because you’re talking to me here, you have enough money to get by, you’re not starving I’m presuming…
>> CLIENT: No, no.
>> ABDULLAH: [laugh] Looking at the blessings you do have, saying, “Okay, God has already blessed me with a great deal of things.”
There’s a wonderful verse in the Quran that I just found the other day that says, all the good things come from God; anything evil comes from yourself [Surah An-Nisa, 4:79]. So the good things that you have, even if it looks like it came from your own efforts, in a way it did, but it didn’t have to happen. Something else could have happened to prevent it.
So all the good things we have we need to be grateful for. I’m not saying that as like a guilt trip, like how dare you be ungrateful; I’m just saying, when you’re grateful for what you already have, then you can be open to being blessed with more of it.
So see where these things came from. See that you already have—and even without being aware of that relationship, that you already have it. Because we’re all born with that spiritual connection. And we strengthen or weaken it over time.
When I asked you what happiness is in the beginning of this, happiness is basically a direct correlation with your own spiritual connection with God, because when you don’t have it, then you’re not going to be happy no matter if you have the whole world. When you do have it, you will be happy no matter if you have nothing. I’m not saying you have to have nothing, but see those people who really do have very, very, very little, and are still able to be happy. So happiness is not a function of our material wealth, or our relationships, or our social standing, or anything like that. It is a function of our spiritual health. Do you know what I mean? So that’s something you have to work on I think.
>> CLIENT: So in your opinion, you said that some people don’t have much in terms of material possessions, but they’re happy. But if they’re happy, shouldn’t they automatically be receiving more material possessions, if they wanted them?
>> ABDULLAH: If they wanted them. I used to wonder the exact same thing, so I know where you’re coming from. I think that everyone is on a different path. We’re not all called to be billionaires. We’re not all called to be Bill Gates. Nor do we all want to be.
>> CLIENT: No, no, of course. I’m not saying to become a billionaire.
>> ABDULLAH: [laugh] Right, no no no. I’m blowing it out of proportion just to illustrate. But we’re not all called to be wealthy per se.
One of the greatest realizations I had was that abundance is not the number you have in the bank account, right? It’s having all your needs met, and maybe some extra for things you want. It’s being happy. Because you could have, let’s say, $100 in the bank, but you have all the things you need, you have the things you want as well—maybe not absolutely all of it. And when a new need comes up, or something new comes up that you would like, then it works out somehow.
I heard of a story just today or yesterday, of someone who was saving up for a new iPhone. And at the Mosque, they were raising money for some—I can’t remember what the cause was—but one of the middle eastern countries. And he felt like, “I should probably give to that.” So he gave all his savings for his iPhone, to that cause. And someone else heard of it, and came over and said, “Oh I have an extra iPhone. I can just give it to you.” And he had his extra iPhone.
So it’s not the money necessarily, and we’re just strictly talking about money here. It’s the same thing with relationships though. But speaking of money, it’s not the number you have in the bank account, it’s not the amount you can take off of a credit card or something, it’s do you have your needs met? It’s when you do want something, are you able to trust that you can receive it? And then perhaps you do receive it, or perhaps you get something better. That’s really what it is. You could be a millionaire and not exactly be happy. Is that abundance? I don’t think so.
>> CLIENT: I don’t, either.
>> ABDULLAH: At the same time, you could be extremely poor, but you have family, you have all the things you want; any extra things you want either money comes through to get that thing, or someone gives it to you, or it’s on discount. That’s abundance! It can come through all sorts of different sources.
So back to your question, if someone’s happy and doesn’t have much, shouldn’t they have more? That’s up to that person I think. It’s up to them, and between them and God. Maybe they don’t want more. Maybe they trust that if they need it, it will come. We just don’t know. But I do think that when you trust, when you surrender, when you let go, and you know that God knows the best for you, whether that’s money or relationships or whether that’s something else, then you can truly be happy, because you know that everything that happens is going to be a blessing for you. Does that answer your question?
>> CLIENT: It does. I think, yeah. But it feels hard for me. Okay, I can understand letting it go, but trusting is not something I feel like I can do right now.
>> ABDULLAH: So why do you think, what keeps you from trusting?
>> CLIENT: Well, probably that it’s never worked before.
>> ABDULLAH: [laugh] See I will tell you, when I got into this stuff last year, it was hard for me to trust, because my logic was the same thing. “What if I trust and it doesn’t work?” [laugh]
What will happen, I find, in my experience, that God is always bringing us, calling us, towards a closer relationship, towards greater connection. And so that was a direct cause of what happened just a couple months later when I had no choice but to trust, because I had no money. [laugh] I had no choice. I literally had nothing I could do. I think when you get onto this path, it’s sort of, well either you’re going to learn, or He’s going to make you learn, in a sense. [laugh] I’m not saying something bad will happen necessarily, but if you have the intention, “God, I want to trust more. Help me with this without being too scary.” I think it only gets to that dire point if it absolutely has to. Because in the clients I’ve worked with, I’ve noticed that God is constantly showing us where we are not perfect. We’re never going to be perfect, but where we are still hanging onto something that we’re not surrendering. And so for you, that’s money, that’s relationships, whatever. And I don’t know the events that have happened in your life. You can look back if you want to and see, “Have things happened that have sort of pointed that out to me?” And what I mean is uncomfortable things—maybe being really close on money and then not knowing if you have enough, or maybe being rejected in a relationship or something—where you had to surrender. Can you see that in your own life?
>> CLIENT: Yeah, yeah, I have seen it.
>> ABDULLAH: So, we’re always being called to that. And you’re not going to trust 100% today. It’s hard. I’m an intellectual person. It’s hard to be like, “There’s someone up there that’s going to give me what I need when I need it, but… how do I know?” [laugh]
This only comes from experience. Trust in little things first.
>> CLIENT: And when it starts working more and more for you, I guess it just gets easier.
>> ABDULLAH: Right. One of the things I love in Islam, God says, “Ask me for the little and the big; for everything I want you to ask me. For everything.” Like I said for me this morning, whether it’s groceries coming a little bit earlier so that they don’t interrupt a session. [laugh],just little things.
So once you start trusting for that kind of stuff, then you can start to see it in your life. And what else kind of helps is if you look back through your life, how can you see where there have been times when things have just happened out of the blue? You couldn’t foresee it. You couldn’t do it by yourself. But things just happen. I think we all have things like that that happen to us, where something happens out of the blue that helps us. So it’s kind of retroactive hindsight, seeing, it’s already worked.
>> CLIENT: But I don’t know if you agree. I feel like before you can just trust, I think you need to also make peace with the idea that you may never truly get it.
>> ABDULLAH: Yes that’s true. Because again, I think it has to be a want, not a need. If you need something that you think you need, that you’re going to suffer if you’re not getting it, you’re not surrendering. So I think you’re right that first it’s making peace with where you are, second is surrendering, third is trust. So again, make peace with where you are. You are here right now, you are wanting the things you want, you are feeling the things you feel. Surrender to that, and say, “I don’t know if I’ll get these things.” And make it okay.
And then thirdly, see how God works in your everyday life. You know, everyday, have a consciousness of, “How is God going to work in my life today?” Could be little things. And at the end of the day, ponder on it. Maybe write it in a journal, or just think about it for a few minutes. “How did God work in my life today? How did things just work out for me that I could not have done on myself?” I don’t care how little it is. “How did God work for me today?” That’s going to grow your trust.
How’s that feeling for you?
>> CLIENT: Definitely more peaceful.
>> ABDULLAH: Good. It’s a process. Like I said, it took me, and I’m still not perfect at it, [laugh], I don’t think we’ll ever be perfect at it. But I want you to work on, as kind of a concluding thing, again work on making peace, work on surrendering, work on trust, and work on seeing that these things really are not the end-all-be-all of happiness. What is the end-all-be-all of happiness is discovering that connection with God, and seeing how He works in your life, and whatever that means for you is what it means for you. But that is the end-all-be-all of happiness. And magical things will start to happen when we start to open up to that, and say, “All right, what do you want from me?” Not only “What will you do for me?” But “What do you want from me?”
Every day I always ask, “Show me what you want with my business, or my coaching, or my website, or just in general.” It’s a back and forth. It’s a back and forth. That’s why it’s a relationship. It’s not just “Would you give me this? Would you give me that?” [laugh] Some people will just pray when they want something, do you know what I mean? But it’s a thanking for what we already have, being grateful for what’s already there, and saying, “Show me what you want me to do.” And then just, things will start to happen. I guarantee things will start to happen. I absolutely guarantee it. So that is what I recommend for you.
>> CLIENT: I understand. Thank you.
>> ABDULLAH: Perfect!
Okay, so, to those watching, I hope you got what you needed out of this insha’Allah. And I plan on doing more of these in the future. If you want to take part in something just like this, where it’s a free session that’s broadcast on YouTube, come to my website. I have, under the coaching page, I have a tab that says, “Free Coaching”, so you can apply there. And my website’s www.CoCreationCoaching.org. I plan on doing one or so of these a month, so feel free to apply. It might take a while for me to get back to you, but I will definitely get back to you.
And so again, I hope that you enjoyed this, and I hope that this helped all of you. And so thanks everyone and have a great day!
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