What would you say is the most important step of the law of attraction?
Would you say visualization? Without visualization, you can't get really clear on your goal.
Or perhaps you'd say feeling the emotion of it? Closer, since without the emotion, the Universe doesn't know what to bring you.
But both of these are incorrect.
The most important step of the manifestation process, and the one I think the great majority of people have trouble actually executing, is letting go.
But why is it so important? And, how can you start doing it more effectively?
The Difficulty of Letting Go
Letting go is one of the most difficult steps for most people.
We usually find it relatively easy to visualize or affirm our goals, and even to feel good about them.
But to let them go? That just seems so counter-intuitive.
It seems like the more we do the other steps, the faster our goal will come. But, that's not true.
I think it's so hard because the ego wants to act. We're used to having to put forth great effort to get what we want in life. That's the normal approach, if you will.
The magical approach, as I'll call it, is completely different. The magical approach to achieving what you want in life is all about effortlessness, not effort; ease, not difficulty; allowing, not forcing.
In other words, it's completely at odds with what we were taught from childhood by our parents and society.
And so because of this, many people have somewhat accepted this new way of living, but try to keep part of the old, too.
It's almost comforting, to think that you can just put forth more effort and get greater results. It seems logical: greater input equals greater output.
If you work X number of hours and get paid Y, then it seems logical that if you work 2X hours, you'll get paid 2Y.
And so many people try to manifest abundance by just working 80 hours a week, and enjoying just about none of it.
Even when it comes to the law of attraction, most people try to put forth more effort in order to get their manifestation faster.
It's great if you visualize for a minute, but imagine if you visualized for 30 minutes, or even an hour?
Would you get 30 or 60 times the results?
Well, look back at your own results. What has been the truth of the matter?
Have you gotten most of your best results when you've put forth great effort, or when you've simply let go?
I know that for me, things have worked out the most when I've simply given it over to the Universe. The greatest number of clients have come when I was least expecting it. My best and most profitable ideas have come when I was simply relaxed, not trying to do anything.
The Magical Approach
So, let's abandon the old, outdated approach. It really hasn't worked all that great for you. Even if you've gotten greater results, it's likely at the expense of your enjoyment of life.
So what's the magical approach?
As I said, it is characterized by letting go.
There is often some confusion when I talk about letting go, because it might seem like I'm saying to let go of your goals, or that your goals shouldn't be important to you.
But that's not the case at all. You have the goals you have, and they are important.
When I say letting go, I mean letting go of the process of achieving your goals.
If you hopped on an airplane to your favorite destination, would you try to do the pilots job? Would you try to handle all the controls, even though you didn't know the first thing about flying?
Or, would you sit back in your seat and simply enjoy the flight?
I'm guessing the latter. If not, then I'd rather not fly with you. 😛
But in the law of attraction, it's as though you're trying to do the Universe's job for it. You're trying to go into the universal cockpit and take the controls, even though you haven't the faintest idea of how to make everything work properly.
You chose your destination, you got your ticket and got on the airplane. Now you just need to let the Universe bring you there. It literally couldn't be simpler.
This is the magical approach. It's the knowledge that a little goes a very long way. It's the knowledge that your life is a co-creation. It's the knowledge that your job in life is to choose the destination, and hold the vision until you're there, then repeat it all over again with a new, better destination.
It's to stop putting the cart before the horse, by not allowing reality to manipulate your emotions and discourage you from your goal.
Holding the Vision
As I said, we're generally good through the steps of choosing the goal, visualizing or affirming it, and feeling it as achieved, at least for a moment or two. 🙂
The difficult part is when you've set that goal to find a new job, but are met with yet another rejection. It's when you've decided on a financial goal, but are hopelessly far from achieving it. It's when you'd love to get into a good relationship, but no one seems interested in you.
Its that moment when reality seems to conflict so starkly with your vision of what you'd like it to be.
You'd like to be a successful business person, but are barely scraping by. You'd like to be happily married, but are spending another night alone.
These are the moments when it is hardest to let go.
I've asked the gods repeatedly whether there is any shortcut to make this easier. The answer I get every time is “no”.
There's no shortcut. Just the dedication to make the vision more important than the current picture that outer reality is offering.
All the major inventors and scientists have done it.
It was the Wright brothers who had to hold the vision of a machine that could fly, despite nearly all scientists saying it was impossible.
The key is letting go of everything that contradicts that vision.
You never, not once, let go of the vision itself. But you let go of the need to see it right now in front of you, and the need to know exactly how it's going to happen.
See, the magical approach is all about putting the vision before current reality. Most people allow current reality to dictate their vision, for good or bad.
But, the truly magical, the true creators, will put the vision first, and hold to it until it is reflected in outer reality, letting go of everything that contradicts that vision.
I've told this story before, but it fits. It took me several years to really, truly honor my vision of working for myself, helping people spiritually. I allowed outer reality to dictate my idea of what was possible, primarily by feeling guilty about my own desires.
Once I made a commitment to the vision, then things started to shift.
I won't say it was immediately easy, but things certainly moved a lot faster once I dedicated myself to my vision, and let go of all the rest.
Let Go of All that Contradicts Your Vision
So, you desire abundance, but don't know how you'll pay the next bill. How do you hold on to the vision, and not become discouraged?
Do you visualize for an hour a day until you convince yourself that it's possible?
No, that's never worked.
Do you put in more and more overtime?
Not unless that really feels like the best option.
No, you let go. You surrender to the process of creation.
You look at the unpaid bill and say, “I don't know how this will get paid, but I know that it will. I will hold the vision of abundance unwaveringly, and let the Universe do the rest.”
You might visualize and feel the feeling of abundance for a moment or two.
But then, you completely let go of it. You release that energy into the Universe. You let the pilot fly the plane to your destination.
You don't keep asking, “Am I on the right plane?” “Are you sure I'm on the right plane?” “When will I get there?” “Will we arrive where I want to go?”
That's not letting go.
Letting go is just to hold the vision effortlessly, and allow the Universe to take you there.
So, in our example, every time you think of that bill, you simply give it over to the Universe. You realize it's not your concern.
You might have to do this 100 times a day at first. But, in time, your subconscious mind will get the hint that you're just not interested in worrying about this, and it'll stop bringing it up.
Yes, of course the other steps are important. But, the energy of your manifestation simply can't be acted upon by the Universe as long as you are holding on to it.
Do your processes, then let it go.
Try to keep your mind completely off the topic of this goal for as long as possible. Otherwise, you risk obsessing over it.
Give up as much of the process as possible to the Universe. Your job is simply to feel good about it. That's it. You need do nothing else.
If you do that, and let go of the rest, you'll arrive at the goal very quickly.
How to Let Go
So, letting go is a great idea, but how do you actually do it?
There's no simple answer besides, “just do it”.
But I'll give some pointers that I hope can be helpful.
The first time when you really need to let go is in the manifestation process.
You sit down to do your particular technique. You have your goal in mind, you access the state of having it, and you're feeling pretty good.
Now comes the most important part. You let go of the feeling.
You see, to simply go from the feeling of the goal, back into normal consciousness, would not quite allow that energy to go out to the Universe. You'd constantly be checking whether you were feeling “the right way” or not.
What you must do is to let go of the feeling, once you feel you've released most of the resistance in your vibration for now. You release that feeling and enter back into a very general peaceful state.
Then, you keep your mind off your goal as much as possible, for at least a while.
You don't wonder whether you did it right, or whether you should do it again. You completely let go of the energy and trust the Universe to do its thing.
If your mind tries to worry about it, just remind yourself that your part is done. All you need to do now is to enjoy the journey.
Now, that doesn't mean you never return to the goal. I generally suggest meditating on it once every day, to acclimate your subconscious mind to this new goal.
However, you don't keep on it all day, either. You have to let go of the energy.
Later on, when it feels good to do so, you can fantasize about the goal and really have fun thinking about it. But even then, you want to let go of that feeling and return to your everyday life.
As it becomes easier and easier to think about the goal and feel truly good about it, then you can start thinking about it more and more often. It's just especially at first that you try to be careful, because thinking about it excessively can trigger major resistance.
Now the second time is when you're just going about your day, and something reminds you of current reality, and how different it is from what you want.
Here, you have to let go of the temptation to become discouraged. You must remind yourself that your vision is already set, and the Universe is responding to it.
This current reality is only here because it's a reminder of your past focus. But, you don't need to allow it to set your present focus, too, and thereby create your future reality.
So, when you're met with some conflict to your inner vision, simply don't take it seriously. Realize that this is where you were in the past, but now you can create a new future. Then, let it go.
I promise that once you learn the importance of letting go, your manifestations will come much more quickly. They cannot come to you when you haven't let go of everything that is blocking its way. So, once you have truly let go, you'll see things shift drastically around you.
How About You?
Now it's your turn. Have you learned the importance of letting go? Are you able to apply it to your own life? Let me know in the comments.