LOA Deep Dive: Are You Focusing Too Much on Doing?

I’ve been talking more lately about the effortless path to manifestation. A few weeks ago, I wrote about using attraction instead of force.

In last week’s Creators Circle, I mentioned an experience I had as I was working on manifesting a goal of mine.

At that time, I had a conversation with a being I often communicate with, who pointed out that I was focusing too much on trying to do something—trying to make this manifestation happen, instead of taking the more soul-based approach.

This conversation, in a lot of ways, is similar to that post three weeks ago. However, it is sufficiently different that it deserves its own discussion. Plus, it is something that is so often ignored, that I feel it bears repeating.

However, this is also quite a different discussion. This is more about the ego’s need to do, and the soul’s need to simply be.

Can the Soul Want Things?

The law of attraction is often criticized for being very ego-centric. The stereotype is that all we want is “stuff”—the nice car, the great job, the perfect relationship, etc.

“Stuff”—e.g., material things—are often condemned as unspiritual, and therefore of ego.

The issue is that these things are often desired out of a place of ego. “If I get this thing, I will be happy,” so the ego says.

And so the road that many take is to totally denounce such egoic pursuits.

And yet once they head into more “spiritual” paths, the ego still follows. They develop something called spiritual ego, which takes pride in its apparent spiritual achievements.

So in the end, the ego had nothing whatsoever to do with the material. The material just gave it a convenient outlet to vent its insecurities.

But robbed of that outlet, it will find something else, unless cut off at the root.

So the question is, can material things be desired by the soul?

The Difference in How Ego and Soul Desire

The ego desires in order to fill a void—or prove something to itself.

When a desire stems from ego, it’s incredibly difficult to manifest it, because we get obsessive and fearful about that manifestation.

But the soul “desires” in a very different way.

I’d go so far as to say that it doesn’t desire, as much as it becomes.

When we live from our Core Essence, then life becomes not a fulfillment of desire, but a reflection of who we are.

I discussed that a bit in episode #23 of Co-Create Your Life, but it definitely bears repeating.

In essence, the more you become aligned with your own deepest Self, the more life becomes a reflection of your deepest and truest joy.

The thing is that material stuff can absolutely be a reflection of our truest joy. The Universe does not condemn these things in the least.

Cars, houses, money, relationships, and all the rest can indeed be expressions of your truest Self.

It’s just that the ego feels a need to grab on to these things—to force the Universe to hand them to us—whereas the soul is content to become what it already is, and life will simply reflect that.

Which path sounds less stressful to you?

Take Control Over Your Domain

The trick is to take control in the one place you actually have control: within your own being.

Your mind and emotions—what I call your inner landscape—are the one place that you can exert control.

If it’s not up to your standards, you can change it until it is.

What it comes down to is that the ego tries to change things where they cannot be changed: on the outside.

The soul simply changes what’s within until it is in alignment with your truest Self, and once that is done, the outside must reflect that. That is the truest meaning of the law of attraction: you, being your truest Self, attract that which is an outgrowth of that being.

So don’t worry about the outside. It’ll take care of itself.

When I say not to worry about the outside, I’m not saying to deny your desire. That will never work, because that desire is actually a reflection of your own soul. Otherwise, it would not be such a deep desire.

One Simple Question

What I’m saying is that instead of trying to change the outside, change the inside.

In other words, and as it was communicated to me:

Stop asking “what must I do,” and start asking, “who must I become?”

If you want something, and don’t have it, then ask yourself, “Who am I being that is keeping me from this goal?”

It must be a question of essence, not one of action.

Once you are fully living as your essence, then those things that are natural to you, will come to you.

But you only ever get what you’re being within. It has no reflection on what you’re doing, but insofar as what you’re doing is itself a reflection of what you’re being.

It Only Takes a Choice

See the thing is that your inner landscape changes instantaneously.

You think about something pleasant, and you instantly feel pleasant emotions.

You think about something unpleasant, and you immediately feel unpleasant emotions.

The more you focus in one direction or another, the more your inner landscape takes on the nature of that focus.

Often the reason you’re failing with your manifestation is because you’re trying to get it on the outside right now.

If instead you choose to have it within yourself—allow your inner landscape to take on the nature of that goal—then you will have it right now—within.

And if you have it within, then it is only a matter of time before you have it without.

So it’s just a matter of a simple choice to have it now, inside yourself, no matter what might happen on the outside.

Don’t Listen to the Ego’s Voice

Of course, you have resistance. When you choose to be that within, the ego will fight back, saying, “This isn’t possible.”

But if you don’t even engage with ego, by just saying, “I am my truest Self and I choose to be this goal,” then there’s nothing the ego can do.

The way you do that is by not reacting to what the ego says. Don’t react when it says, “You can’t have this.” There’s no need to react, because the soul knows that we already have it, right now. There’s nothing else that needs to be done. So what’s all the fear about?

Realize that when that fearful voice is piping up, that is simply the ego trying to fill that void. The soul has no voids to fill, and so it does not fear.

So when you are working on your goal and the fearful thoughts come up, don’t even fight them.

Just say, “I will be this goal right now,” and that’s all that needs to happen.

As you become that goal deeply, or become that which the goal is a natural expression of, then outer reality must shift to match what you already have.

I’m not saying it’s easy. The ego’s voice is really convincing at times.

But the more you practice just connecting with your truest Self and being your goal within, the easier it will become to ignore that fearful voice.

How About You?

Now it’s your turn. Have you been listening to your ego’s voice, or choosing to simply have your goal right now in the moment? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.

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