In this podcast, Brandon, Christine, and Justin discuss the importance of shifting out of the problem-orientation of your goal, and into a creation-orientation. In other words, as long as you’re trying to solve problems, you’ll get problems. But if you focus on the vision you want to create, then you can truly tap into your creative potential to create whatever you want in life.
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Resources Mentioned in the Podcast
Discussed in today’s podcast (click the link to jump to that section of the transcript):
- We Often Start with a Problem Mindset
- Trust and Experience
- The Difference between the Solution to a Problem and a Vision
- Two Kinds of Structures
- Blind Faith and Beginner’s Luck
- One Method: Put Up with the Bad until You Change Your Subconscious
- Another Method: Asking “What Do I Want to Create?”
- Living in a Consumer Society
- Create a Broader Context for Your Life
- Care More about Your Vision than Current Reality
Brandon: Welcome to Co-Create Your Life. This is episode 17, “Start Creating Your Vision and Stop Solving Your Problems.” I am Brandon Olivares.
Christine: And I’m Christine Olivares.
Justin: And I’m Justin Williams.
Brandon: Today we are talking about basically this issue that I find a lot of people have when they’re trying to create or manifest. That is that they will focus nonstop on a problem they have in life, and they will try to bring law of attraction to bear on that problem, and it won’t work. We’ll discuss why that won’t work and will never work and will often make things worse, and what you can do about that and how to transition into creating a vision of what you actually want in life instead of trying to solve your problems.
Before all that, some announcements: If you would like to see the show notes or read the transcript or leave a comment, you can go to cocreationcoaching.org/create017.
If you would like to ask a question for Co-Create Your Life, you can go to cocreationcoaching.org/ask/create You should, because then we can use our nifty little sound effect. [sound effect] [laughs] That’s our new favorite. We’re using it all the time now, so please ask questions so we can use our sound effect.
Justin: We can use it for everything.
Christine: That’s the only reason.
Brandon: That’s the only reason. [laughs]
Christine: We don’t care about your questions.
Brandon: That’s right. We just want to use the sound effect. What’s that, Justin?
Justin: Just the sound effect. That’s really what we want.
Christine: You can just play it any time you want.
Brandon: That’s true, but I want a reason to use it. [laughs]
Justin: It feels more powerful when you have a reason to use it.
Brandon: That’s true. If it’s random, then it doesn’t mean anything. Seriously, ask a question and we’ll be happy to answer—and we’ll get to play our sound effect. All right. [laughs]
We Often Start with a Problem Mindset
Brandon: Today, again, we’re talking about creating your vision and not solving your problems. This is a big one. This really came to my attention and I realized (as I do keep notes of things I want to discuss eventually, because sometimes I forget about topics I want to discuss. I was going back through my notes, and I found this). I know we had a discussion about this a couple weeks ago in one of the support calls. Don’t even ask me which one, as I do not remember, and I probably won’t find it.
We were having a discussion of the necessity of not focusing on trying to solve your problems, but instead focusing on creating a vision. Someone was having an issue. She was trying to see it as a problem that needed to be fixed instead of actually creating something entirely new. We were talking about how as long as you define your reality in terms of what you want to get rid of, it’s not going to work. I said I wanted to write a blog post or do a podcast about that eventually. That’s what we’re doing today.
It’s a really important topic because a lot of people do exactly this. Most people, I find, who come to the law of attraction—why are they coming to it? Most people don’t come to it out of greed or something. Most people come to it because they want to fix something. They want a better life. They want to be able to pay the bills, which is obviously a good thing. They want to not be lonely anymore, whatever it might be. They want to fix something in their lives because they’re not happy with it.
So they come to it and visualize, affirm, create vision boards, and do all the stuff they have to do, but in the back of their minds constantly, it’s this focus on “I just want to get out of this situation.” Then that’s one of the biggest reasons why so many people are in this really vicious cycle where it won’t work for them.
Most people who (you hear of this) come to the law of attraction initially are not having a lot of success because of exactly this. They’re focusing on the problems they want to try to solve. They’re trying to fix their lives instead of trying to create something. It just doesn’t work. That’s one of the biggest things I notice.
The thing about it is that it’s a difficult transition because most people think about their lives in terms of problems to be fixed. How many people actually see their lives in terms of what we discussed before: a canvas to be painted upon? In terms of something to be created from scratch? Most people are just trying to solve one problem after another. It’s a little depressing and a little morbid, but it’s true, though, isn’t it?
Justin: Yes, that’s why I came to it. I was in desperate straits. I didn’t have a way out, really. I came to it to figure out how to—I don’t even know. I came to it to get out of the job I was in, but I also came to it because basically I didn’t have any other option. I don’t even remember how I got it. I was reading a Wayne Dyer book and he was doing his thing. I remember thinking, “Wait a minute. I can do this. All you have got to do is what he does.” I came at it to fix things, too, which isn’t a good reason, but I used faith, which is what Wayne Dyer was doing. I actually cheated, in a way, because I didn’t try as much of the vision stuff. I used vision stuff, but I used God. I used faith, and that worked. But most people don’t do that. Most people try to do it themselves. I had enough energetic power to just blow through obstacles. Most people don’t. You want to come to it to create. You don’t want to come to it to fix problems. That usually doesn’t work.
Brandon: Right. I was kind of the same. I feel like I was a little bit of an exception. I came to it (I’ve discussed this a little bit before). Before I came to the law of attraction, I had a long time spent in non-duality. I started studying non-duality when I was 13. Have you ever heard of Advaita Vedanta, that school of Hinduism? The idea that you have to merge with the all and that kind of thing.
We kind of debunked all that in the last podcast plus the post about black magic and all that kind of stuff. We discussed the left-hand path and the right-hand path. I came to it because I had been studying neuro-linguistic programming (NLP), and I had seen that as I made changes in my own subconscious mind, that those changes were reflected on the outside. I remember doing an experiment with Christine. Do you remember this, Christine?
Christine: Which one? Which experiment?
Justin: He did a lot of experiments with her.
Brandon: The metaphor.
Christine: Yes. Oh, that was awesome.
Brandon: We did this thing where we changed. There’s a technique in the master practitioner level of NLP where you change your life metaphor. You change how you see life on a subconscious level. I did that with Christine because I needed a guinea pig. [laughs] The joys of being married. But immediately, she started having all these different changes in life, which was astonishing to me. I won’t go into detail about it.
Christine: It doesn’t matter.
Brandon: She started having all these changes happening that just wouldn’t have happened otherwise. We both knew they wouldn’t have happened otherwise.
Christine: I don’t mind.
Brandon: No, it’s fine. It’s not really relevant. If you want to, you can. That’s when I really saw for the first time, “Oh, wait. If I change something on the inside, the outside changes.” It reminds me of finding a new tool and you don’t really know how to use it. You have one success with it, but then you don’t really know how to use it. That’s how I was with law of attraction. I knew it was a tool that worked, but I didn’t know how to work it. That’s when I started reading and taking courses and things like that. It took me some time to figure it out, obviously. I knew that it worked, at least, because I had it work accidentally. That was how I got into it. Then I had the incident two or three months later in September.
Christine: Oh, gosh. That was horrible.
Brandon: Yes. That was when we had the dire financial situation. Kind of like you, Justin, I knew I had to have faith. I knew I couldn’t panic. So we got through it really, really well. Even though I still wasn’t entirely sure how exactly the law of attraction worked, I knew the basics. I knew that you couldn’t panic. I knew that you had to have faith and trust. Through that, I got through it pretty well, pretty unscathed.
Justin: I know I was always wondering, “How come I’m explaining this to him, and he would go back to Taoism? He’s going into Taoism. What is he doing?” [laughs] “Okay, whatever. I’ll learn some Taoism from him. I don’t care.” [laughs] You know what? I learned some stuff. I actually was learning stuff. I said I’d use this on my family next time. [laughs] Go to a family reunion. No. Just like Brandon would tell it. Pretty funny.
Trust and Experience
Brandon: I did have to solve a problem pretty quickly, but it wasn’t why I came to it initially. It just kind of kicked everything in motion because I really had to apply it then. Thank goodness I realized how to do it, relatively, enough for it to work. That was how I got my start. A lot of people come into it and they do try to solve problems. They try to get more money. They try to have a relationship and whatnot and solve whatever issues they’re having in life. They just (from what I’ve seen on different forums, on our own comments, on Reddit) fail at it because of that. They’re trying to solve problems.
Why is that? A lot of this, you have to have the experience in order to really make it work. I can tell you why that is, but you really have to explore it for yourself. Essentially, when you’re trying to create something and are focused on solving a problem, you’re focusing on reality in terms of that problem. It’s kind of like Einstein’s saying that you can’t solve a problem in the same level of consciousness that it was created. When you’re trying to solve a problem….If I’m saying, “I’m poor, and I want to stop being poor,” what’s going on in my consciousness as I’m focusing on “poor, poor, poor, poor, poor”? I’m focusing on being poor. I’m focusing on trying to get away from that. As long as I’m defining my reality in terms of poverty and my place in that state, then I’m going to perpetuate that condition. That just carries it on.
It’s hard to get out of that, though, because it takes a lot of trust. Like I said, I had that situation in September of 2015. It took a ton (I really don’t know how I did it so new to the law of attraction) of trust to not panic and to not try to focus endlessly on “I need to solve this problem, I need to solve this problem, I need to solve this problem.” It was such a perilous situation from our perspective. I remember trying to tell Christine what the situation was and being like, “Please don’t panic!” [laughs] I don’t have enough to help you and not panic myself. We managed it somehow, and it worked.
A lot of people don’t do that. They just focus on the problem. I’ll get questions a lot of times from someone who’ll say, “What do I do until I create this thing, because I need things right now? I need things to happen right now.” I say, “As long as you’re focused on making things happen right now, on trying to get out of your current situation right now, you just don’t have the ability to change it. It takes a paradigm shift. It’s really difficult.” I don’t know if you’ve gone through this, Justin, this sort of paradigm shift of stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on—not the solution, which we’ll talk about later—but on the vision.
Brandon: It takes this huge paradigm shift. There’s really no easy way to do it. As long as you’re focusing on the problem and are trying to solve it, you’re going to get the problem, get the problem, get the problem. It takes a lot to get there. That’s why I say the law of attraction takes a lot of spiritual development. You can’t just come to it and input, “These are my problems. I’m going to visualize what I want. Ta-da! It’s all done. It’s all being given to me on a silver platter.” That’s not how it works. That’s how a lot of people want it to work, but that’s not how it works.
Today, what I want to discuss is how to make that transition. That’s probably one of the hardest things to do. Once you do make that transition, it’s so much easier, and you’re really set from there. You’re good. Once you make that transition, it’s a lot easier to manifest. But getting through that transition is really hard.
Justin: It is.
Brandon: It is extremely hard.
Justin: Sort of let it go and then recast it as a vision. Bridge the gap, but sort of hop over the gap. I don’t know.
Brandon: Exactly. It’s hard. It’s hard.
The Difference Between the Solution to a Problem and a Vision
Brandon: The first thing I want to discuss is, “What’s the difference between a solution to a problem and a vision?” I specified before that I don’t want to say, “Stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on the solution.” That seems the natural thing to say, but that’s not what I want to say. I want to say stop focusing on the problem and start focusing on the vision.
Justin: The solutions will fall in place as you go.
Brandon: The solutions are almost deemed unnecessary. When you really look at it from a higher perspective, there was never really a problem.
Christine: That’s interesting.
Justin: That’s a way to look at it.
Christine: We think there was because we’re so…
Brandon: We think there was because we’re in a lower level of consciousness. When you raise that to a higher level and can see it from a higher perspective, there was never a problem. I see that in my own life. If I had known the answer was there all the time, I wouldn’t have worried so much about it. That’s what I try to tell myself. Even still, I will worry about certain things. Not nearly as much as before, but still sometimes. I’ll try to tell myself, “Every time I’ve worried about this in the past, the solution has always been there. It’s always resolved itself, so I’m just going to cut out a step and stop worrying right now.”
Christine: Because it doesn’t do us any good. As you said, we don’t know. God or whatever it is knows everything. Why should we worry about something so insignificant?
Brandon: Right. The reason that I say not to focus on a solution—this is why I’m trying to say don’t solve your problems—is because the solution to a problem contains within itself…
Christine: The vision.
Brandon: No. Well, no. Contains within itself the problem.
Christine: That’s true. [laughs]
Brandon: How can I speak about solving my money problem without speaking of my money problem? There’s no way. You can’t speak of solving my money problem without referring somehow energetically speaking to the money problem.
Christine: The solution is contained in the vision because it works itself out.
Two Kinds of Structures
Brandon: It reminds me of when I read (back in November, I referred to Robert Fritz’s work on structural tension)….Remember that, Justin?
Justin: Yes, I do.
Brandon: He talks about two different structures. There’s an oscillating structure that takes you from one end to the other to the other, like the pendulum effect. Then there’s the resolving structure (I think that’s how he said it), which takes you in one direction. The oscillating structure says, “I have a problem. I need to solve that problem.” He compares it to: imagine you’re in the middle of a room. Do you remember this analogy?
Justin: Yes, I think I remember it vaguely, but I know I remember the structural tension.
Christine: I don’t know if you told me about this.
Brandon: He compares it to: imagine this oscillating structure. Imagine you’re in the middle of a room—a large room—and you have two massive rubber bands. One is tying to the wall in front of you.
Christine: Maybe not.
Brandon: One is tying you to the wall behind you.
Justin: Yes, I remember this.
Brandon: Now, imagine on the wall behind you you have “my money problem.” On the wall in front of you, you have “solution to my money problem.” Or it could be on the wall behind you, you have “smoking,” and on the wall in front of you you have “quit smoking.” Whatever it is. It’s two ends of any situation: the problem and the perceived solution. Let’s say you’re trying to solve your money problem. Imagine, again, these two rubber bands. As you walk forward towards the solution, what happens to the solution rubber band—the one that’s tying you to the front?
Justin: It shrinks, but your money problem gets tighter.
Brandon: Exactly. You jumped ahead of me. [laughs] The solution rubber band gets looser. It doesn’t have as much tension because you’re going towards what it’s tying you to. But the one that’s tying you to the wall behind you…
Christine: It’s stretching.
Brandon: Is getting tighter and tighter and tighter and tighter and tighter. Eventually…
Christine: It’ll break.
Brandon: Okay, we’re assuming these are unbreakable rubber bands. [laughs] Eventually, you won’t be able to stand that tension and you’ll go the other direction. Even if you touch that solution wall, you can only stay there for so long. It’s like, “Ugh, there’s this tension pulling me back.” Then you’ll want to resolve that tension, so you’ll go the other direction towards the problem. This is why when people try to solve their money problems, they’ll get a big windfall, and then they spend it all and they have the problem again. This is the oscillating structure. Then they’ll go towards the problem wall. What happens when they go towards the problem wall? Now it’s relieved because it’s uncomfortable again in my old situation, but now I want to solve it again. The more I approach the problem, the more I want to solve it, and the more I want to solve it, the more I want to solve it. No matter which wall you’re headed towards…
Christine: You’re doomed.
Brandon: You’re always going to have some tension.
Christine: Or you’re doomed? No, I’m just kidding. [laughs]
Brandon: Pretty much. No matter what’s going on, you’re going to have tension. He says you can’t solve the problem because solving the problem has within itself the problem. It has this oscillating structure. You can’t solve it. That sounds like, “What am I supposed to do then, just deal with it the rest of my life?” [laughs] But that’s not it. You transcend the whole structure. You don’t even pay any attention to it anymore. I’ll tell you basically how to do this. Instead, you create a vision. “I want to be abundant.” “I want to be abundant” doesn’t contain any problems in it. What happens is I approach abundance. It feels better and it feels better and it feels better and it feels better. Does anything pull me back? No, because I don’t have a problem. Does that make sense?
Justin: Say I choose abundance or I am abundant or something like that.
Brandon: My vision is abundance. My vision is wealth.
Justin: There you go. You get a vision that looks and feels and sounds like abundance. That’s it.
Brandon: As you approach your vision, there’s nothing pulling you back because you’ve created a resolving structure that’s going to take you to abundance. The closer you get to that abundance, the less tension there is, and there’s nothing that’s going to pull you back the other direction. That’s really the whole secret of this whole thing. That’s why I’m saying you don’t want to focus on solving the problem. As long as you’re focusing on solving the problem, you’re in the problem framework. You’re in the problem paradigm. You just can’t do it. As long as you’re saying, how can I stop being poor? How can I get more money? Even if I get more money, in the subtext of that is: because I don’t have enough of it!
Justin: I don’t have enough.
Brandon: I don’t have enough money. What do I do? I want more of it.
Justin: Say, “I’m prosperous.”
Brandon: That’s what we’ll talk about soon. Right now, I’m trying to explain why you don’t want to focus on solving the problem. Solving the problem is just going to contain the problem itself, and it’s just not going to work. You can’t speak of the solution to the problem without speaking of the problem, implicitly. That’s what the thing is. You have to stop that problem consciousness. You have to find a way to stop seeing it as a problem and to start creating a vision. That’s really the thing that we’re trying to tackle. How do you make that transition? How do you transition from the problem consciousness to the creative or creation consciousness?
Christine: That’s the hard part because I know people who are so ingrained in the problem. If they say, “I choose” whatever whatever, they don’t even believe it.
Blind Faith and Beginner’s Luck
Brandon: Right. I’ll be honest. There’s no clear-cut answer. There’s no 3-step technique and you’re done. These are just tips. There’s nothing specific I can give you because it’s based on each situation. What I’m aiming at is you having a basic understanding of what the structures are so that you can see them in your own life and change them.
Justin: I use faith. That’s a tough way to go, but it worked.
Christine: Faith is the best.
Brandon: That’s hard when you’re first…
Justin: Tough way to go, man.
Brandon: Starting out because you don’t have anything to base it on. Blind faith is the easiest faith to crumble, isn’t it?
Justin: It is. It is, except since I’ve had no choice and was listening to Wayne Dyer, reading him and saying, “This has to work.” I just went with it. [laughs]
Brandon: I did, too. You can have a certain amount of beginner’s luck. You succeed because your subconscious mind hasn’t realized what’s going on. It hasn’t realized you could fail at this yet. Eventually it will figure out ways. You have a bit of beginner’s luck. Everyone says they come to it and maybe they have one big success. “I got this big thing.” Then when they really start applying it in earnest, it all crumbles because they really don’t know what they’re doing. In the excitement of the moment, they applied it and just happened to get what they wanted. Then they try to repeat that, and it’s not working.
Justin: Yes, it can happen.
Brandon: There’s a bit of beginner’s luck in this, I think. That’s what happened to both of us. Even after that incident in September where I did succeed, I succeeded just enough. I was making things work just enough, but it was a tight few months, I’ll say that. I remember being frustrated. “I just want to get out of the situation. It’s so frustrating.” Obviously, the more I said that, the more I couldn’t get out of it.
Justin: Yes. Oh, yeah.
Brandon: That’s really what it’s all about. I remember in our “Art of Reality Creation 2.0” class, we were discussing this. Let’s say you want to start a business and leave your job. “I don’t like my job.” So you leave it and try to start your own business and you utterly fail at it because you just don’t have those structures in place. I won’t give away too much because that’s in the class. That’s what can happen a lot here. You’re trying to solve a problem. You’re going to create more of it.
One Method: Put Up with the Bad Until You Change Your Subconscious
Brandon: That leads me to really the first way that you can make this shift. How can I put it? To really just put up with it for a while, I guess. To really do whatever unmagical actions (“nonmagical” sounds better)…
Christine: Nonmagical. [laughs]
Brandon: To do whatever nonmagical actions you have to to make it work in the short term. You keep that job. You don’t go quitting and starting your business, because you just don’t have the trust. You know your limit. I’ve compared this before to lifting weights. You don’t go lift a 200 lb. weight before you can even lift a 20 lb. weight.
Christine: Unless you want to throw your back out.
Brandon: Right. You do what you have to do, sometimes, to bridge that gap. It’s not super exciting. It’s not, but sometimes that’s what you have to do if you’re really, really stuck deep in a problem consciousness. Sometimes you do what you have to do for a while until you can create the vision. To give yourself some breathing room. That, in itself, is in a way magic. To me, all action is magic. Even if it’s not your highest joy for a while, it’s not great, it’s not super blissful or anything, it’s a lot easier than trying to quit the job and start your own business and take that drastic path. “Oh, I’m just going to create everything I need.” That will end in failure. Maybe it’s not your highest joy for a while. Trust me, I don’t like saying that, because I’ve always been about taking my own path and all that. But if you’re really, really stuck and you’re really not able to make that transition, sometimes it’s just helpful to…
Christine: You have to bide time.
Brandon: Yes, you have to give yourself some breathing room.
Christine: That’s okay.
Brandon: That’s just helpful to do what you have to do in order to give yourself some space to then start creating what it is you want. If it’s a business, a lot of people will have a job and start the business on the side until it’s big enough. Then they’ll quit. That’s okay. There’s no failure in that. No one says you have to do the big, bold leap of faith thing.
Christine: You went backwards.
Justin: I do that.
Brandon: Quit the job and do the business. Yes, I know I went backwards. Now I’m getting a job. Well, hopefully. But it’s one I enjoy, though. It’s not like one I hate or anything.
Christine: It’s not really work to you. I don’t mean that derogatorily. I mean, if you love what you’re doing, it’s not work.
Brandon: Exactly. Right. Sometimes, you’ve just got to do what you’ve got to do. I know it’s very non-law-of-attraction-esque or nonmagical, but it really is.
Christine: You have to build the subconscious structures.
Brandon: Right. You give yourself some space.
Justin: And it’s the magic you have at your disposal right now. That’s kind of what I say. I like to say it’s the magic I have at my disposal right now. That’s kind of what I use, and I keep moving.
Brandon: Right, exactly. Sometimes you just have to do it. Sometimes you’ve just got to do it. There’s no way around it. That’s not a bad thing. You don’t have to feel guilty or ashamed of that or anything like that. It’s just sometimes you have to do it, and that’s okay. That’s really the first way, because as you do that, you just do what you have to do. You’ll give yourself that space, and then you can start creating your vision.
But in that time when you’re doing that, you can’t sit there and say, “I hate that I have to do this. I hate this job. I hate this situation.” Blah, blah, blah. You say, “This is a temporary situation. I’m actually using it as a creator as a stop-gap solution so that I can have room to actually create and I don’t have to be pressured.”
I guarantee if you go out and take that leap of faith, you’re going to have tons more pressure, and you’re going to be a lot more likely to fail. It’s a lot easier to create when you have a job that you don’t like all that much than it is when you’re homeless or when you don’t know how you’re going to cover the electric bill. Whatever. When you’re not having electric to use the internet or gas to heat your house or cook with, that’s a lot more stressful than just putting up with a job you don’t like.
Justin: Because then you’ve got to create electricity.
Brandon: [laughs] Create electricity.
Justin: You’ve got to create a way to actually use electricity and eat. Now you’re using your actual manifesting power on stuff that you absolutely need.
Brandon: Exactly. That is a lot harder than just, “I’m going to stay here for a while and do what I have to do, and that’s okay.” That’s perfectly fine. But don’t fight against it. Don’t hate it. Don’t do stuff to it.
Christine: Do as a creator.
Brandon: Right, and that’s fine. I think it’s about time for our break. When we get back, we’ll continue our discussion about how you can transition to creating your vision instead of solving your problem. You are listening to Co-Create Your Life, and we will return in just a moment.
Another Method: Asking “What Do I Want to Create?”
Brandon: Welcome back to Co-Create Your Life. Again, we are discussing how to start creating your vision instead of solving your problems. Once again, before the break we were talking about sometimes you just have to do what you have to do. That’s okay. That was our first way of doing this. Sometimes, the nonmagical approach—sometimes you just have to do it. You don’t want to underestimate that kind of thing that you have to do sometimes. Obviously, it’s kind of a last resort. You don’t want to have to do that unless you really, really have to, obviously. When I try to point out some other ways of making that paradigm shift without having to use that temporary solution, again, it’s there if you need it. But ideally, you don’t want to have to do that. It’s not extremely pleasant. I’ve talked before about my infamous internship of 2014.
Christine: 2014, I think.
Brandon: That was a bad experience.
Christine: I think it was 2014, yes.
Brandon: Sometimes it’s not worth it. You just have to gauge that for yourself.
Christine: You weren’t doing anything, either.
Brandon: What else can you do, though? One big thing that I’ve used myself is just asking the question, “What is it I want to create?” Meditation is a great tool for this because it helps you take a higher perspective of everything that’s going on.
Justin: That’s right.
Brandon: Try to just see your situation from an objective, unbiased perspective. Ask yourself, “I’ve been focusing on the problem, but what is it I want to create?” What I want to fix and what I want to create are two totally different energies. Everyone listening, I want you to think of a problem you have that you’ve been trying to fix with law of attraction or with magic or whatnot. Ask yourself, “First of all, what do I want to fix?” Feel that. Feel the feelings associated with that. Then ask yourself, “What is it in this situation I want to create?” See the difference? If you could keep your attention focused on the latter, and rarely if ever focus on the former, you would make that shift.
Brandon: Questions are very powerful things because they elicit answers from the subconscious mind.
Justin: And it’s really great to do them in meditation. Really do them in meditation. Sorry about that. Go ahead.
Brandon: No, of course. Definitely in meditation because it helps you have that unbiased perspective. It doesn’t have to be anything formal. Just take a few deep breaths and go within. Tap into your feelings, your body, and your own consciousness, and do that. If I say, “What do I want to fix? What do I want to solve?”
Christine: It’s a lot more work.
Brandon: It just feels bad. It doesn’t feel good. My subconscious mind—anytime you ask a question, it will come up with answers. I promise you. When you do that, it’ll say, “Hmm, I’ll find some stuff.” [laughs] “You want problems to fix? I’ll give you problems to fix.” [laughs] If instead you say, “What is it you want to create?”, at first you might have no idea. I’ve asked people this before, and they’re like, “I don’t know. I don’t know.” You know what? The life of a creator is sort of difficult. You have to figure that out.
Brandon: What is it you want to create? Until you answer that question, I can’t help you. Nothing can help you. No one can answer that question for you, because if they do, then it’s not your creation. It’s their creation. They can help you uncover it, but they can’t answer that question for you. That’s a very powerful question. What is it in this situation that I want to create in my life?
A feeling will be associated with that, and an answer as well. The subconscious mind communicates in feelings, so you’ll always get a feeling with it. If it’s a neutral answer, it’s not the subconscious. It’s the ego or the conscious mind answering. But if you really go deep and you ask yourself what it is truly you want to create, what would bring you joy in life, it’ll tell you. It knows the difference. If you try to create the solution to the problem you’re trying to fix, you’re not going to feel great about it. It’s just not going to feel that great. You’re going to perpetuate the problem, as we said earlier.
But if you focus on “What do I want to create?”, then you will have the feeling of that. You’ll have the energy of it. I used to call it the vibrational signature of that. That will change your inner landscape and subjective universe, which will also change the objective universe. That’s a really powerful question. Keep asking yourself that, especially when you lose sight of what it is you want to create.
It’s really easy to lose sight of what you want to create and your vision that you have. We get caught up in those pesky little problems. It’s just really difficult to keep an eye on what it is we want to create. That can be a really powerful technique if you apply that and keep asking yourself that question. You’ll keep turning your attention to that. We know focus is one of the 3 forces of energy, basically. When you focus, you pour more energy into that. You increase the momentum. We talked about all that stuff in the blog post “How to Speed Up the Manifestation Process.” It grows. When you focus on what you want to create, that part grows. That’s what you want to grow. That’s very, very powerful.
Justin: The answer will come out of—it will be like an “aha” moment. “Ah, that’s what I want.”
Brandon: Right. Exactly. It’s very powerful. It has to come out. Don’t force it. Don’t rush it. You might not get it right away because how often do people think of that question? How often? That brings me to another point. We recently had a discussion about this. Magic or the law of attraction or whatever you want to call it—your vision is not just about getting stuff.
Christine: It’s true. Yup.
Christine: It’s an outward thing.
Living in a Consumer Society
Brandon: That’s great for a while. One thing after another after another—fine, whatever. I’m not saying that’s wrong. We had a discussion with someone who said that the path of just getting stuff will get old after a while and you’ll have to turn to non-duality or whatever. That’s not even close to what I’m talking about here. I’m not talking about the path of getting stuff. It’s so much deeper than that. I know those who come to the law of attraction kind of come to it in that sense, but I’ve been striving since the beginning to try to get you to see a deeper sense of all this. That’s a lot of why I created the Order for those who really do want to go a lot deeper with all this. Keep this stuff for those who are exploring all that. It’s not just about getting things. I’ll tell you exactly what I said in the comment, basically. We have tons of consumers in our society. I mean consumers as those who buy things. This is a consumer-oriented culture, is it not?
Christine: Oh, gosh.
Brandon: Look at Christmas. All the retailers are excited because sales go up and everyone’s fighting over the best toys for their children and whatnot.
Christine: And two months before Christmas.
Justin: Just don’t even make—sorry, go ahead, Christine.
Christine: Even in September. Even September it starts. It’s sick.
Brandon: Right. What were you going to say, Justin?
Justin: Some stores don’t even make their actual yearly annual quotas until the holiday season.
Brandon: Until the holiday season is over, yes. They want that profit from the Christmas and holiday season.
Justin: They make the quota. They plan not to make it until then. Then they do.
Brandon: We have a consumer-based culture and society. That’s not what we’re about here. It’s not just about how you can get that next iPhone or that computer or car or house. I’m not demonizing that in a certain context. What I’m saying is, most consumers are defined by exactly that. They’re mindless. What I called them in the comments was “mindless drones.” Their focus is consuming. Their focus is buy, buy, buy. Fill this void that just begs to always have more, more, more with more and more stuff.
Christine: They’re not even happy.
Brandon: You have people who have mounting credit card debt because they just need to buy more things. They need the status symbol. They need all the best things for their kids or their families or themselves. They need the best house, the best car, whatnot. I’m not demonizing that act in itself. I also like nice things. A lot of us do. That’s perfectly fine. What I’m demonizing is the mindlessness behind it.
Christine: Yes, and that’s all people care about. Once this one isn’t good enough—not even if it’s broken—when it gets old, “I need the next one!” They’re so, as you said, mindless. They’re not even happy. They’re not spiritual.
Brandon: Again, I’m not saying don’t want things. I want to separate that out. I’m not saying don’t want things. I mean, heck, we’re in a law of attraction podcast here. [laughs] My focus is getting results. If you don’t get results, then what’s the point?
Christine: Want them for the right reasons.
Brandon: What I’m really railing against here is the mindlessness of it. What I’m saying is, magic or the law of attraction or whatnot is not about getting stuff, period. Stuff just for the sake of getting stuff. It’s not about consuming or easier ways to consume. We don’t honestly need easier ways. [laughs]
Christine: You can go to Amazon and buy stuff within five minutes.
Brandon: That’s not what this is about, getting that car you really really want just because how awesome it would be to get that car. There are other places for that. I’m not saying, again, you can’t get a car or a house or whatever you want.
Justin: Yes, you can get whatever you want.
Brandon: What I’m saying is, it’s not about that. That won’t do it in the end. That won’t do it.
Christine: We’re made for deeper things. We’re made to be spiritual.
Brandon: Right. That’s what I’m saying. It’s the mindlessness that I have a problem with—the perpetual need for more and more stuff. When people come to the law of attraction sometimes, it’s either, again, “I want to solve a problem” or just a way to get that awesome car.
Justin: Yes, that’s true.
Brandon: When you say you have to develop spiritually, they say, “Forget that! That wasn’t in the advertising!”
Justin: They just want the car.
Create a Broader Context for Your Life
Brandon: [laughs] They just want the car. Give them the darn car. That’s what I’m trying to say: it’s not just the stuff for the sake of the stuff. It’s going to take development. It has this built-in safeguard mechanism, because in order to use the power, you have to respect the power to a certain extent. I’ve discussed that before, also. What is it? When I say, “Create a vision of what you want,” yes, that might include nice new things. I can think of tons of things that would be awesome to have and goals that I would start in the future. I have goals right now that I’m working towards. What I mean by “vision” is, what is this all about? Look at your life overall. What are you doing? What is it you want your life to be? If your life were a work of art, what would it look like? What would it sound like if it were a piece of music? My metaphor I changed in my NLP practice was “life is like a symphony or an orchestra.” I don’t remember which one it was.
Christine: I think you said “symphony,” yes.
Brandon: It’s all these parts melding together and sounding really beautiful. All these disparate parts mixing together. That was my metaphor. If your life was a symphony, would it just be chaotic and random and have no higher purpose? Or would there be something to it? What would it sound like? If it were a painting or a work of art, what would it look like?
Justin: A tapestry.
Brandon: A tapestry, yes. That’s perfect.
Justin: You build a tapestry.
Brandon: Right. What would it look like? That’s your vision. Why are you here? I’m not saying it like a universal thing. This is a choice. Why are you here right now? What are you hoping to get out of life? The left-hand path thing is not “I’m going to serve the universe” but “I’m going to make basically life serve me.” But what is it you want it to do? It’s not just this egoic, “Oh, I just want all this stuff, all this stuff, all this stuff.” That may satisfy you for a while. That’s great. But when I say a vision, I really mean what you really want to get out of all of this. What is it you want to be? What is it you want to become? That’s the big question. That’s the big question behind all of this. What is it you want to become? That’s the vision.
I’m not saying you have to have this big vision behind every little goal. What I’m saying is, focus on the bigger context of it. If you want to start a business, what is really the vision behind it? If you want to get a new job, what is it you’re hoping to get out of it? What’s the vision of it? How does it fit into your larger context of life? If you’re wanting to get a new house or a new car or whatever (again, I’m not demonizing the wanting of that—desire is great), have a knowledge or understanding of what is behind all of it and what really that is bringing you and how that fits into your greater vision of things. That’s what I’m saying with vision. Create a vision of what you want. Don’t try to do this whack-a-mole game of solving all these little problems that pop up here and there. People do that for decades. I love that game. [laughs]
Christine: I’ve never played it. I wish I did.
Brandon: It’s a great game.
Christine: You’re going to teach me one day.
Brandon: Yes. It’s kind of visual, but I don’t know.
Christine: You could do it, huh?
Brandon: I think my mother helped me. [laughs] I don’t remember.
Christine: I could help you, probably.
Brandon: Yes. Focus on the vision. Focus on the vision of what it is you want. That’s really what it is. Focus on what you want to create. Then, from there, you have a lot more power to actually bring it into being. Go back and listen to The Unseen World podcast. It was episode 6 with self-deification. That’s really what it is to be self-deified, to be a god of your own reality. It’s not just, “Oh, yeah, I can set my vision on a car. I can get a car.” Great. Great for you. But what it is, is “I know who I am. I know what I’m doing. I know what I want out of life and I’m getting that, both materially and spiritually and emotionally and mentally, on every level. I have full control.”
Justin: You’re making your reality serve you.
Brandon: Exactly. That’s left-hand path. That’s left-hand path right there. That’s what it’s about. I was asking Christine if we should go eat or not. As I’ve been working on the Order of the Black Flame, a few weeks ago I read this—Justin, did you get to read The Diabolicon yet?
Justin: No, I forgot about it. I’m happy you reminded me.
Brandon: [laughs] I don’t know if you have trouble reading it. It’s a great little booklet or document. It’s 19 pages. I have everyone who joins the Order read that document and write a response to it. When I read it, even though I know it’s mythological and was written by a human called Michael Aquino…
Christine: Well, who else would it be written by?
Brandon: People haven’t heard of it. [laughs]
Christine: You said a human, like…
Brandon: What I’m saying is, it feels….When I read it, I was just struck for some reason by the vision of it. I’ve really been exploring the symbolism and mythology. I’ve talked about the left-hand path is Satanic force. The Diabolicon talks about Satan or Lucifer or whatnot rebelling against the order of the universe. In the law of attraction, we say if you fight against something, it brings about more of it. Well, he’s smarter than that. It’s not his method. His opposition is in creating a vision that is different than what is and enforcing and imposing that vision on what is. That’s what magic is. It’s not that he fought against the current way of things, because that would just make them stronger. He said, “Forget this. I’m going out and creating my own way of things.” That’s what Satan is all about to me. You read it with me, Christine.
Christine: Yes, of course.
Brandon: You see what I’m saying?
Christine: Yes. It’s like, “To heck with this. I’m going to do my own thing.”
Brandon: Right. I’m going to do my own thing. Yes, the word “satan” means “adversary.” Yes, that’s true in the sense of he is going to go against what things are, but he’s not going to be in the weak position of, “Oh, I hate how things are. What am I going to do?’ There’s so much more power there than that. That’s the symbol that inspires me. When you are creating a vision, that’s exactly what you’re doing. You’re seeing what life is now and saying that’s not what I want. Me saying that’s not what I want is not me saying, “I want to fix a problem.” It’s saying, “I have a higher and different vision for this.”
Christine: It’s empowerment.
Brandon: Right. I don’t fight it. I say, “This doesn’t define me. I have more power than this. I have power to impose my will.” I go off and create a vision different than what is or the objective universe or the order of things. Not only do I create that vision, but it’s not good enough for me to keep that vision inside myself. That’s why I say we want results. It’s only enough when that vision is created on the outside. I have brought my will to bear upon the universe. That’s the left-hand path. That is self-deification. You could even say in a way (I said this before) it’s Satanic. It’s that rebellion. It’s that imposition of will. I’m going to say what is in my reality. That reminds me of that because it’s empowering. You are deciding for yourself what’s going to be in your reality. You’re not just, “Well, the universe is this, so whatever. This is how things are.” It reminds me, as I say what is, of the direct opposite of Byron Katie. You know her, Christine.
Christine: Of course.
Justin: Oh, yeah.
Brandon: Her thing is about accepting what is and loving what is and just being happy with what is and not wanting anything else than what is.
Christine: That’s so disempowering. [laughs] This is why I never liked it.
Justin: I didn’t study her much. I just remembered the questions that you asked with her, a little bit.
Brandon: Her technique is really useful for challenging your own views of things, but then you have to go beyond it. Just to say, “I’m going to love what is and everything is perfect as it is.” No, that’s not how it is, not for me, anyway. Not for people who are listening to this who want to create something new. What you’re saying, basically, is, “What life has given me is not good enough” (which is fine) “and I’m going to rebel against that in a way. I’m going to decide this is what I want to create.” Not “this is what I want to change or fix,” but this other thing is what I want to create. Totally out of the context of what’s here right now. It doesn’t matter what’s here right now, because this is what I’m deciding I want to create. That is creating a vision. That reminds me of that. That’s a really good symbol of how it all works.
Christine: Yes, I agree.
Justin: You just find a way. You create. I always imagine it as the ball’s in your hands and you have to do something with it. Along the way, you’ll get support because you’re creating something. The universe will throw you some bones to help you out, but you have to be moving forward into your vision.
Care More About Your Vision Than Current Reality
Brandon: That’s what it is. Don’t focus on trying to solve the problem. Focus on creating the vision. Really keep your focus there. One last thing: what it is all about is caring more about your subjective universe and your vision than for current reality. When I say that, a lot of people take this too far and say…
Justin: Don’t take this the wrong way.
Brandon: A lot of people will take this too far and basically lie to themselves. They’ll pretend that current reality doesn’t exist. That doesn’t do it because that doesn’t set up the tension you need. You have to say, “Yes, that’s what’s here right now, but I don’t care about that. What I care about is this is what I want to happen, and therefore this is what’s going to happen. This is what I’m going to create.” You don’t lie to yourself and say, “Yeah, actually I’m abundant right now.” No, you’re not.
You do that when you’re doing your techniques like journaling, but in your everyday life, you don’t say, “This is what’s going on. I’m actually abundant right now. I’m actually in a happy relationship.” Well, I am, but if you’re not. “I’m actually dating someone right now. I’m already have the new car or house that I want.” Don’t lie to yourself, but care more for your subjective universe. Care more for what it is that you want to create than for what is actually already existing. Pay attention to both.
Recognize both, but care more for what it is you want to create. That is how you bring your vision into reality. It doesn’t matter that right now you’re struggling or are alone or whatever. None of that matters, because this is what the vision you have is. You can’t be swayed from that. The more you’re not swayed from that, the quicker it will happen.
Christine: I like that.
Brandon: The more you stick to that vision no matter what outside reality has to say about it, that’s again why the Satanic imagery really speaks to me. It’s rebellion. I’m not going to pay attention to what outside reality has to say. I’m going to stick to the vision of what I want to create and stick with it until it happens, because it will happen. The more you do that, the faster it will happen.
Christine: It reminds me of the Bible story in the New Testament. I can’t remember exactly the details of it. There was a Samaritan woman who needed healing from something. I can’t remember what it was. Jesus kept saying, “But not even the dogs” or something. “The dogs are treated.” I don’t remember what it was.
Brandon: Because the Samaritans were not seen as very well by the Jews.
Christine: The woman said, “Even the dogs get the scraps on the floor that are left over.” He kept testing her like that because she wanted healing more than she wanted—he tried testing her. Is this what you really want? Are you sure? Are you sure?
Brandon: I remember that story.
Christine: I wish I remembered it. Maybe you could put a reference in there. That’s just what that reminds me of.
Brandon: Right. You have to stick to that vision. That’s what artists do. That’s what creators of all sorts do—inventors, artists, musicians, any creative type will stick to that vision no matter what current reality is saying. They’ll use current reality. They’ll recognize it. They’ll take its feedback to know where they are in respect to it. That’s why it’s important, but you don’t take its opinion.
Brandon: You don’t believe in current reality. Yes, you say, “I want to make $40,000 a year. Right now I’m making $30,000 a year. That’s my feedback. This is how far I am away from it.” Then you keep sticking to that vision. “Oh, now, look, I’m making $35,000. I’m closer.” You don’t say, “That’s the final word. What current reality says is what has to happen.” You use it as feedback. You use it to know if you’re moving closer or further away from your goal.
In that way, you have to be honest with yourself. As I always say, don’t sugarcoat current reality. But you don’t believe in it or that this is the final say or that this is how things are and that’s just how it is. You keep sticking to that vision because you’re the god of your universe. That’s what it is. We talked about self-deification last week. You’re the god of your universe. You get to say about what that is. That’s sticking to your vision.
One final thing I wanted to mention: when I say creating your vision is not just about getting stuff, I’m not saying that because any god cares about that. That’s a right-hand path idea. What I’m saying is, from the left-hand path, self-deified perspective, you are so much more than just a consumer of things. The things are a great way of enjoying life, but then you are also so much more than that. That’s what your spirituality is. That’s why I kind of see magic as law of attraction plus spirituality, in a way. A lot of the law of attraction is so lacking in spirituality.
Christine: It’s so true.
Brandon: But it’s so vital to the whole thing. That was a good discussion. I enjoyed it. I hope everyone else did.
Justin: Oh, yeah.
Brandon: That was good. Once again, if you would like to see the show notes for this episode or read the transcript or leave a comment, you can go to cocreationcoaching.org/create017.
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Christine: And I’m Christine Olivares.
Justin: I’m Justin Williams.
Brandon: And anything is possible.
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