Can a desire of yours be blocked because it is not for your highest good? This is rather a landmine of a topic, but I knew I had to address it eventually. Recent events have forced the issue a bit, so here we are.
Many people suggest adding “for the highest good of all” at the end of all affirmations, like some magic defense against doing inadvertent harm. Others say that such a step is not necessary.
Some say the Universe / the gods can hold up your manifestation because, well, reasons, which we'll discuss later. Others say that you are the sole creator of your life, and what you want, you can get, no questions asked.
Which side is true? This is what I hope to discuss in today's post.
My Own Experience with a Blocked Manifestation
I told this story during the last Spiritual Freedom Support Call, but I'll retell it for those who didn't listen in.
Many of you know that I'm a witch (read about that here if you didn't), and that I work with Hades and Hecate as my deities.
Hades has taught me a great deal about creation and the law of attraction since I've started working with him. We have this cycle where he teaches me something new, I get everything I can out of it, write a lot of new posts here about my new revelations, and then stabilize at that new level. Then I ask for the next level, he teaches it to me, and so on.
I went through this recently. I was feeling pretty comfortable where I was, and also not sure what kind of things to write about next. So, I asked for the next level.
I was given two things at once, but in opposite order of how I've written them here. The first thing was about how your manifestation can be blocked if it is not in your highest good, which I'll explain below. The second was the idea of creation vs. attraction, which I already wrote about last week.
Anyway, the idea of the highest good came via a personal lesson. I had mentioned a few weeks ago that I wanted to do a podcast on starseeds. I didn't know too much about the subject myself, so I had the idea of finding a guest or two who would be willing to talk about their experience of realizing they were a starseed.
I was successful in finding a couple of volunteers. However, almost immediately, obstacles started presenting themselves.
On the first attempt, both guests fell through. One could not attend due to unforeseen circumstances, and the other simply didn't respond.
Okay, so take two. On the next day, the first guest is no longer responding. The second one says he's not interested unless there's at least one other person.
Cool. So I send out an email to the mailing list asking for a volunteer. I get a response. Yay!
Except, now the other guest isn't responding, either.
Well okay, I figure we'll go on with me, Christine, Justin, plus the guest from the mailing list. Everyone shows up, surely this time it'll work out.
Except, no, we have technical problems with the podcasting application. We debug for over 30 minutes. No dice.
Well, at this point I am seeing a pattern. If I'm honest with myself, I realize that I've been seeing this pattern for quite a while, but didn't want to admit it. Sometimes you just want something to work out, and you keep pushing your way through no matter what. But eventually, you have to admit defeat and realize it's not going to work out.
Now here's the thing: throughout this process, I was quite deliberately manifesting a positive result. And I saw some of the effects of that. I found guests rather easily. They had fascinating stories. But, any attempt to finalize the podcast just ended in failure.
I know how to manifest. This was something more than mere resistance. I know what resistance feels like. Any resistance there might have been was quickly released. I also know what it feels like when I've homed in on the vibration of my goal. Everything was in line.
But, the results just weren't going my way.
It was explained to me afterwards that it just wasn't time for me to do this topic. Why? I really have no idea. Will I try it again later? I similarly have no idea. I just know it wasn't permitted right now.
But Wait! Aren't We Creators?
Yes, we are. But as I have explained before, just because we are creators, doesn't mean that there are no limits.
As humans, we aren't always great at knowing exactly what is best for us. You may think a particular job is perfect, but there may be some unknown detail that makes it a horrible fit for you.
So tell me this: would you prefer to get that job anyway, and suffer the consequences later, or would you rather be warned of the path you're about to tread?
This sort of acts as a built-in failsafe, so that if you don't get the message prior to this point, then the Universe / gods will send a stronger and stronger message, as you see with my experience above.
However, in most cases (I'm not necessarily saying in all cases), you will still have the choice to continue, anyway. If you are really stubborn, and choose to proceed despite the warning of the gods, generally you will be allowed to do so. But, in every single case, you will not like the outcome.
For example, in my experience above, I was close to just recording the podcast with the resources we had and running with it. However, I had a very negative feeling about it, and thankfully, Christine said something to the effect of, “I don't think this is meant to work out.”
A second example was early last year. Co-Creation Coaching was pretty new still, and I was frustrated with the lack of growth. I was considering taking an entirely new path as a way of hedging my bets. I've always been very interested in numbers and working with money, so I thought about going back to school for accounting.
Everything worked out at first. I found a great program I could do from home, which was important to me as I didn't want to relocate. The price was pretty reasonable.
But then, any attempt to proceed was foiled. Again, it didn't seem to be resistance, because I was super excited about the whole thing, and was confident it'd all work out. In fact, they were trying to get me to start during the next term that started just a month later.
But, all of the financial details just wouldn't go through. I applied for financial aid, but had a loan in default. I took care of that, but it wouldn't be reflected on my record for something like nine months. I thought perhaps the Blind Association of New York would help cover it, but they wouldn't consider it, either, until that record was clean. I even tried manifesting the amount myself, but got no traction on it.
I held it as a future possibility for a while, but then CCC started taking off, and I realized I loved what I was already doing.
But again, I could have waited those nine months and reapplied. I'm sure it would have worked out. But I'm just as sure that I wouldn't have enjoyed it. Yes, I enjoy working with money, but I enjoy helping people to learn to work with it in a spiritual context. That's why I created my course, Effortless Money Manifestation, and I also now offer my LOA money coaching.
So, in my opinion, if something is not for your highest good, you will be warned repeatedly. But, you may still be allowed to achieve that desire if you really persist in it. No one is taking away your freedom. But, I for one am glad that this failsafe is in place.
Focus on the Feeling, Not the Goal
Sometimes we allow ourselves to get too caught up in the vision of the goal itself. I'm definitely not saying that's a bad thing, and I encourage really getting detailed about your goals if that feels good to you.
However, those images are just placeholders. That specific job you may be looking at is just a placeholder for the real perfect job for you. You may not know what that perfect job is, but the Universe does.
It's somewhat like shopping on Amazon. You may have an idea of the item you want. But you read the reviews, and find that it actually has some pretty major flaws. So, you look at other related items, until you find one that has all the features you want, and has good reviews. You went in with an idea of which one would be right for you, but you kept in mind the real essence of what you wanted, and searched until you found that.
In the law of attraction, the feeling of your goal, which I've in the past called the vibrational essence, is that search query that filters out the unwanted results. If a manifestation looks good, but it really isn't a match to that feeling you're focusing on, then it's denied.
For instance, if you want more abundance, there are a whole bunch of ways you can get it. You can get another job that pays good money, but which you might not enjoy. Obviously, that's not desirable. You can put in a lot of overtime at your current job. That may not be desirable, either, because of the amount of effort involved.
Just a desire of “more abundance” is not only a goal of more money. It's a goal of more money along with the feeling of freedom and effortlessness. If you really wanted to, you could take on three jobs, but is that really abundance, even if it results in a higher bank balance? I don't think so, and I bet you don't, either.
Of course, you can get specific with how that abundance comes to you, if you can do so without resistance. If that means is for your highest good, then it'll come to you in that way.
For instance, when I started setting monthly goals, I was very vague about how they happened, though I was specific about the amount. As a result, the money came in many different ways, though all desirable. Some came through this website. The rest came through various other means.
Now, though, I desire for my business to grow even more, so I am setting specific goals for that, which are only satisfied if money comes through the services I offer here. As a result, I see a lot more of that happening now. It still comes through other means as well, but there's a definite shift.
So, you can be specific. But make sure you are specific for good reason. Sometimes I see people getting overly specific just because they can't imagine how else their desire could be fulfilled. But, there might be another means that is for your highest good. Ask yourself, “Why does it have to be in this way?” If you have a good reason, then great! But if not, then just focus on the essence of what you want, and why you want it.
Who is It That Blocks Your Manifestation?
All this talk about your highest good might sound like the Universe is judging you, and what you can and cannot have. However, that's not quite true.
There are two ways that a manifestation can be blocked for not being in your highest good, or the best match to the vibrational essence of your desire. I think it'd be helpful to discuss both of those here.
The first way is by the Universe itself. It's important that when I say “Universe”, I am not referring (yet) to a higher intelligence. I'm referring to the spiritual laws that hold everything together. It's completely blind to any idea of human morality, justice, and so on.
It's like talking about gravity. Gravity doesn't care if dropping a brick on your foot hurts: if you drop a brick over your foot, it'll fall on it.
Similarly, the Universe via the law of attraction, and other related universal laws, doesn't care if you are struggling to manifest your desire. What you hold within, it'll reflect without. That's it's job, and it does it perfectly.
People who struggle with the law of attraction often tell me that they wish the Universe would cut them a break. But, it's incapable of doing that, unless they align with being cut a break. It doesn't have an idea of mercy and compassion anymore than gravity does.
So for that reason, it also doesn't really have a concept of something not being for your highest good. If you're aligned with something, it'll come to you. If you have the subconscious structures in place to support that goal, then it'll be attracted to you effortlessly. If not, then of course that's another story entirely.
However, again it has a bit of a built-in failsafe, because if something that looks good on the outside is actually not going to match the feeling you have been focusing on, then it will not really be a match to you, and you won't get it.
However, it also means that if someone is a “bad” person (putting “bad” in quotes because the Universe has no concept of good or bad‚, they can still get anything they want, provided they can align with its essence and generate the necessary subconscious structures to support that goal.
But, there is a second way by which a manifestation can be blocked, and that's by what I refer to as the gods. You may call this the Divine, the Creator, or any other name you choose. However, to me, they are the gods.
The gods are indeed a higher intelligence. Where the Universe works according to the laws it was programmed to follow, the gods can break the rules. Where the Universe has no concept of mercy and compassion, the gods can and often do. However, on the other hand, where the Universe must always give you exactly what you are a match to, the gods are under no such obligation.
The more you relate to Divinity as an intelligent force, the more you are building a relationship with the gods, and they can work more directly in your life.
Both of my examples were examples of literal divine intervention. I'll show you soon how you can tell the difference between resistance, simply not being aligned, and actual intervention by the gods. But, I'm positive that the latter was the case for me. I wanted something, and they said, “No, we don't think that's such a great idea. It's not for your highest good. Proceed at your own peril.”
Doesn't that infringe on my free will? No, as I described, I still had the choice to continue. But, I took their warning, and stopped pursuing that path.
But even if I didn't have the choice, I trust them to make those decisions. After all, that is why I have a relationship with the gods I do. I trust them to act in my best interest. They are invaluable mentors and guides, and of course, much more than that, too.
How to Tell Why Your Manifestation Is Being Blocked
Above I mentioned three reasons you might not yet have your manifestation:
- You have resistance, so it cannot yet come until you generate the subconscious structures to support your goal
- What you think you want is really not a match to the vibrational essence of your goals, so the Universe cannot bring that to you
- What you think you want is judged by the gods (or your idea of Divinity) to not be for your highest good, so it is blocked from you
So how do you tell the difference?
Well, resistance always feels negative. You probably know the feeling of resistance quite well by now, if you've been working on a next level goal. It feels like fear, stress, or anxiety, or anything like these.
When you're moving towards your goal and get something you believe is a match, but really isn't, the feeling is going to be subtly different. In my experience it causes surprise more than anything. For instance, you feel great about interviewing for that job, but then you don't get it. The feeling is, “Oh, I wonder why that happened?” Usually, it's because you weren't actually a match to it. Either there is still low-level resistance just beneath the surface, or the job had some detail you weren't aware of that made it not actually a match to your desire.
The third option I find to be the easiest to decipher. When you are actively pursuing something but the gods believe it is not for your highest good, it feels like repeatedly ramming into a brick wall, but being too stubborn to stop. It's not that you have resistance, but that you are so set on this that you keep pushing forward.
But, when you really look at what's been going on, you see many, many obstacles. I mean, it gets to the level of the ridiculous pretty quickly. Things that really should have worked out, just seem to be sabotaged.
A single obstacle is generally just your own resistance. But once it starts feeling like the Universe has it in for you, that's because, well, it does, sort of. It's not that the gods have it in for you, so much as they are trying to prevent you from going down the wrong path, by quickly and repeatedly erecting brick walls in your way.
Once this happens, the best thing you can do is to stop, take some time to center yourself, and ask them, “Okay, what is it you'd rather me do?” And, they will answer you, provided you are able and willing to receive the answer. Quite often, months or years down the road, you'll look back and realized that you're actually happy it hadn't worked out for you after all.
How About You?
Now it's your turn. Have you had the experience of running into so many obstacles, despite not having much resistance, that it seemed like the Universe was actively trying to block you? I'd love to hear your thoughts in the comments.