You're happily applying the law of attraction to your desire. You've dropped your attachments to the best of your ability, you've released the resistance that's come up, and now you're just waiting to see what happens.
How do you know if it worked? How do you know if your manifestation is on its way?
Perhaps you had some experiences that you could interpret as a sign, but are they, really? Or are you just misinterpreting the signals from the Universe?
Those are the questions I'll be answering today. Our reader, Dee, asked this question:
I've been trying to manifest my soulmate( we were together a short time awhile back). August 19 he texted me “are you seeing anyone”. I answered “no” and I haven't heard from him since. I'm new to the LOA so my question is this. Was this message evidence that it is manifesting? Or just a fluke? Is something going on behind the scenes that I can't see? I just can't understand why he asked me that but then I haven't heard anymore from him. Do I need to just wait and “allow”?
This is a great question, and I suspect that it's one that many people hold.
It's actually three separate questions, and I'm going to address them one at a time. The questions I'll answer are these:
- “Was this message evidence that it is manifesting? Or just a fluke?”
- “Is something going on behind the scenes that I can't see?”
- “Do I need to just wait and ‘allow’?”
How to Know a Sign Is, Indeed, a Sign
Dee's first question was: “Was this message evidence that it is manifesting? Or just a fluke?”
There are really no “flukes” in the Universe. Everything has some meaning.
Actually, I'll modify that. Everything that triggers an emotional response within you has a meaning, either positive or negative.
So, if something happens that triggers a positive response, then that means that this was a positive manifestation for you. On the other hand, if something happens that triggers a negative response in you, then that means that this was a negative manifestation. In other words, the Universal flow, in its attempt to manifest your desire, ran into some resistance, and so you got this unwanted experience.
Totally neutral stuff really doesn't have meaning, to you. And, all meaning is meaning, to you. You are the only one that can give it meaning, based on your own subconscious programs running in the background.
For instance, when you're driving to work, each and every building you pass doesn't have some universal meaning to you. But, if someone cuts you off in traffic, and you get angry, then that most certainly does have meaning and significance, because you had an emotional response to it.
In this case, I'm guessing that when this guy texted you, you probably had a positive response.
So, simple answer? Yes, that was a manifestation.
Note I've not talked about signs yet, only manifestations. But, they are really one and the same. A “sign” of your manifestation, is really its own mini manifestation. Usually the Universe doesn't just drop the completed manifestation in your lap. You'll generally see bigger and bigger signs as your manifestation approaches. Not all the time, but this is a general pattern.
What's the Universe Up To, Anyway?
The second part of your question was: “Is something going on behind the scenes that I can't see?”
Oh, most definitely.
The Universe is a bit like a computer. When you go to check your email on your computer, it's performing countless operations in the background. Just immediately under the surface, it's connecting to the mail server, sending requests and receiving responses, and downloading your messages.
But even below that level, there are many, many more things happening. A modern CPU (computer processor) can execute on the level of billions of instructions every second. These are all far beneath the level of what you'd be seeing on your computer screen, but they are necessary to the proper functioning of your computer.
When you're manifesting, you're doing a very, very small amount of the work. You're simply setting your intention, and feeling the feeling of having the goal already.
The Universe does everything else. It has the big picture. It knows what components to place where to get you to your goal in the fastest, most effortless way possible.
For quite a while, you're not going to see any evidence of that work. It's all happening under the surface.
But eventually, you will see some sign. It will be of one of two types: either (1) a positive manifestation that feels good to you, or (2) a negative manifestation that feels pretty terrible.
If #1, then you're doing well. You're lined up with your goal, and just have to keep holding your pure intention.
If #2, then some resistance has gotten in the way, and you have a bit of work to do in order to clear that out.
Actually, there's a third type of sign: a mix of #1 and #2. Part of your manifestation feels good, but part also feels bad. It's a mixed result.
Once you receive these signs and react accordingly, then the energy goes out and another attempt is made at the manifestation, which will result in more signs.
So what's going on behind the scenes? Well, just about everything. Every time you think about this relationship, you send out a bit more energy that adds on to what you've sent in the past.
You can either add energy to “this isn't happening,” which you have been doing, it seems—or to “it's coming to me”. That is purely determined by your thoughts, and the signs in your life will reflect this.
So, every time you think on the subject, that energy goes out to try to manifest this relationship. The Universe finds the shortest path to your goal. When the energy returns, it will either find a clear path, or it'll run into the barriers you've put up, being your resistance.
Evaluating the Signs
With that in mind, let's evaluate the signs in this situation. It may seem you've not been getting signs, but you definitely have.
You said, “I just can't understand why he asked me that but then I haven't heard anymore from him.” Hopefully this will answer that for you.
First, you say that on August 19, he texted you and asked if you were with anyone.
What kind of manifestation was this? Probably a positive one.
That means that you had a bit of openness to this desire of yours.
Now, after that happened, you didn't hear back.
How did that feel? Probably not so good.
Therefore, it was a negative sign, meaning that resistance got in the way.
It is now over a month later, and you've still not heard anything. Therefore, this negative sign is continuing. Every time you think about his non-response to you, you are reactivating that negative manifestation.
So what happened? Why did a positive sign manifest, and then nothing but negative manifestations after that?
I'm guessing one of two scenarios took place:
First, you received the text, and were really excited about it. But, that excitement triggered your resistance. Now, you think thoughts like, “Oh, I wonder if he'll reply? Could this turn into something? But what if he doesn't reply? What if it doesn't work out?”
This is a common trap I find people falling into. The desire begins to manifest, but we try to rush things. We wonder “what if”, and basically analyze it to death.
The more you obsessed over it, the more you put up resistance to the manifestation of this desire. And so, it was followed immediately by the negative manifestation of him not responding.
The second possibility is that you had just enough openness for him to text you, but still a good bit of resistance that you hadn't dealt with yet. You were a match to him texting you, but you hadn't opened enough yet for more to manifest.
These two possibilities really aren't too far apart, and honestly it doesn't matter.
The point is, you did have some alignment, but then somehow allowed yourself to generate increased resistance to this manifestation.
For others who read this post, you'll want to analyze your results in much the same way. When you get positive signs, realize that these reflect your own openness to your goal. But when you receive negative signs, that's a reflection of your resistance.
Either way, you always know exactly what to do next, which is the beauty of the Universe.
Note that nothing happening is, in fact, a negative sign. You respond with negative emotion to it, which means that it is a sign of your resistance. So, a manifestation doesn't always have to be an actual event, but could very well be a non-event.
What to Do Next?
Your last question was: “Do I need to just wait and ‘allow’?”
My first answer is, of course. Allowing is always the answer, along with setting your intention.
The ego will always try to figure out actions it can take to make this desire happen. But, it will not work. You wield the most power in life when you simply allow the Universal flow to do its part.
I only recommend taking 10 minutes or so, once or twice per day, and holding your intention. If resistance arises when you think about it, then clear that resistance.
You want to be aware of your thoughts about this situation, when you think about it.
If you think about it in a negative way, such as worrying about him not contacting you, or what that might mean about you as a person, then you're just adding to the resistance.
If you think about your desire and feel negatively, that's your resistance. Simply release those thoughts, and move towards thoughts that feel better to you.
In the teleclass series coming up, The Art of Reality Creation, I'll be talking about collapsing the duality and entering the zero state. However, that is far beyond the scope of this post.
But, you cannot afford to continue to obsess about this situation. Every time you do so, you are just adding to that resistance, and perpetuating more of the same.
Again, for others reading, the answer is the same. Be careful of your thoughts when you are thinking about your desire.
That doesn't mean to push away those thoughts, as this “pushing away” is itself a negative emotional response, and therefore creating resistance.
I'm saying to cut off the emotional charge from these thoughts.
It's not the thoughts themselves that are creating in your reality in a way that you do not like. It is the negative emotional reaction to these thoughts that is creating for you.
Remove that emotional charge, and the thoughts have no power.
Thoughts are just energy. It is the emotional charge that magnetizes them.
Now, I do want to say that allowing does not necessarily mean waiting. Results could come tomorrow, if enough resistance was released.
But, it might come in a way that you don't expect. What if this particular person isn't your “soul mate”? Honestly, the concept of soul mate is a pretty useless one overall, but that's a topic for another day.
So what if the perfect person is standing by, but your insistent focus on this one specific person is blocking out that manifestation, which could be even better for you?
Just put out your request to the Universe, and sit back to see what happens. That's about all you need to do.
I covered a lot of material in this post, so let me summarize briefly.
So, how do you know your manifestation is on its way?
Well, you know because you've set the intention. Isn't that the whole principle of the law of attraction?
So there's that. But beyond this obvious point, for a while, you just have to trust.
Think of your goal, feel the having of it emotionally, and then let it go. Do this at least once per day, preferably shortly before bed, and that's all that's needed.
You'll get feedback soon enough. Maybe when you think about it, you feel resistance. So, clear that out.
But after you've been doing this, you'll get some reaction. Something will appear in outer reality, whether positive or negative, which will show you where you are with this desire.
If it's negative, then you missed some resistance. That's okay.
If it's positive, then that's great! It means that you're on the path to your manifestation, so just keep doing more of the same.
If it's a bit of both, then celebrate the positive, and release the resistance triggered by the negative.
Then, set your intention again. And the cycle begins anew, with another sign manifesting itself, either positive or negative, and you again get the chance to react to it.
So, how do you know it's on the way? Because, you should be paying attention to the roadsigns. If they say you're headed in the right direction, then trust in that. But if they say you're headed the wrong way, then respond to that feedback appropriately and try again.
This stuff is not complicated. You just need to pay attention.
How About You?
Now it's your turn. Have you seen the signs of your own manifestation? Are you aware of the path you are on and where it is taking you? Let me know your thoughts in the comments.
If you have your own question you'd like me to answer, then feel free to ask me. Your question could end up being answered on my blog. 🙂