If you look at your current life, how hard do you feel you have to work to ensure the good and prevent the bad?
Are you constantly running away from what you don’t want? Are you perpetually trying to manifest your biggest desires, believing they will make you happy?
This very attitude is the central reason why lasting happiness seems to be so illusive.
What if the Universal Flow actually supported you in every area of life? What if it led you directly to the greatest joy imaginable? What if, when you simply surrendered to the Universal Flow, you had nothing to fear?
I know that if this concept is new to you, you might be skeptical. After all, the ego believes above all else that if it doesn’t remain in control, life will simply fall apart.
But, let’s put that theory to the test.
The Only Reason You Haven’t Found Lasting Happiness
Firstly, when I say happiness, I don’t mean mere pleasure at something nice happening in life. There are myriad reasons why you might be happy in this moment: you just got paid, you received a compliment, you bought something nice for yourself, etc.
But, often within hours, if not minutes, the happiness has left. It was just a temporary state.
And, we spend our entire lives seeking ways of being in that state longer and longer. We want to make it last not just for a few minutes, but for a lifetime.
And so, you might start by believing that if you had X desire, then you would be happy. Sooner or later, X desire comes, and you’re happy for a bit, but it’s just like every other time: soon, you’re back to where you were before.
So, X desire gets replaced by Y desire, and the cycle starts all over again.
But, there is one reason, and one reason alone, that your state right in this moment isn’t unalloyed happiness.
Do you want to know what it is?
It is because of your incessant need to seek pleasure and avoid pain. It is your need to separate yourself from the Universal Flow, and only accept certain parts of reality.
In last week’s post on radical acceptance, I described how attachments and aversions come packaged together. You can’t have one without the other.
For instance, you might have an attachment to financial security, but an aversion to financial lack. You might have an attachment to a happy relationship, and an aversion to being alone.
That might sound obvious. “Of course I have an aversion to financial lack,” you might say. “Who would want that?”
The truth is, putting these requirements on reality is incredibly stressful. We’re constantly judging each experience as either good (pleasurable), or bad (painful). And, we seek out certain ways to reduce the bad and augment the good.
That’s a fool’s errand, though, primarily because it’s coming from this place of a deep distrust of reality itself.
Any time you separate yourself from reality in any way, you suffer. Any time you need reality to be a particular way in order for you to be happy, you suffer.
It’s turning life inside out and the wrong way around. It’s putting the burden of happiness upon outer reality, when the purpose of outer reality was only ever to point the way to freedom.
Happiness Is Here Already
Playing this game of judging each experience as it comes also robs you from witnessing the perfection of the moment.
Try this exercise:
Simply notice what is here in the moment right now. Take each sense and just notice what is there.
For me, I notice the sound of my screen reader speaking in my ear through my earphones. I notice the sound of the air conditioner. I notice the sound of Christine’s phone reading out some sort of story. I notice the feel of the couch I’m sitting on, and the laptop on my lap. I notice the soft sensation of air brushing my skin.
What did you notice?
Also notice the thoughts that arise in awareness, along with any emotions they bring with them.
But notice that if there is any sense of suffering, of anything less than happiness here in the moment, it is only because of a thought. There is some thought saying that either this present moment, or some feared future, is wrong and to be resisted.
If you just let this moment be as it is, it is sheer perfection. There is no other choice.
Anything that says otherwise is just a thought—a story of ego.
See if, just for a moment, you can drop those thoughts about the future, or about how things “should” be. What is left here in the moment, when you drop those stories?
Nothing but perfection. Nothing but pure happiness. Nothing but deep peace.
That’s life. That’s who you are, underneath all the stories. And it’s always been here, waiting for you to notice it.
Surrendering to the Universal Flow
I will reiterate, to the extent that you try to change what is, it is to that extent that you block out this underlying perfection, and therefore you suffer.
Of course, as you do this, outer reality responds. It can’t help but respond to what’s within you. If resistance is within you, then resistance is without, too.
What is resistance? It is simply pushing against the Universal Flow.
You do not exist as a separate being. You are part of the Universal Flow. This flow is in all things. It is that out of which the world arose. It is that to which it will return. In the Tao Te Ching, it is called the Tao. In Hinduism, it is called Brahman.
Actually, there’s a slight differentiation, but it’s far beyond the scope of this post. Perhaps at a future date. 🙂
Anyway, you are intimately connected to this Universal Flow, call it what you will. But every time you look to some part of reality and say “no”, you are resisting that flow.
This is why I’ve been emphasizing the importance of saying “yes” to reality as it is.
Saying “yes” does not mean you’re telling the Universe you want more of that thing. You’re not saying, “Hey Universe, I want more financial lack!” No, not at all.
Actually, when you say “no” to it, you are in fact saying, “Hey Universe, I don’t like this thing. Keep bringing it back to me in bigger and bigger ways to remind me of how much I don’t like it, please.”
But when you say “yes” to all of life, you are saying, “Hey Universe, I’m okay with wherever you take me. I am detached, which means you can swiftly take me to better and better places. I don’t need to pay attention to parts that don’t feel good to me, because they are just part of the flow, and I will accept them. And because I can accept them, I can let them go and move on.”
As hard as this might be to believe, the Universe is not out to hurt you. It is not out to crush you with resistance. It is just your own “no” to life that does that.
Last week, I set a challenge for myself. For one day, I made a commitment to not setting a single intention.
That’s pretty significant, because I am always setting intentions throughout my day. But, for this one day, I committed myself to not intending anything at all, and just giving in to the Universal Flow, letting it unfold through me as it will.
And, it was a wonderful day, truly. Any time a judgment arose in my mind, I simply allowed it, and let it go, like all other thoughts.
My reality did not fall apart. In fact, everything went incredibly well.
Here’s the thing: you don’t need to do anything to be in the Universal Flow. You already are an intricate part of that flow. All you need to do is to simply let go of any and all resistance that arises.
Resistance is just showing you where you’re not allowing the Universal Flow. That’s its sole objective. Once you let go, there is no need for that resistance to arise again.
Where Will the Flow Lead You?
The fear of letting go I think is because people fear where the Universe will take them.
I remember when I was younger, I was afraid of trusting in God, because I thought God would make me do something in life I didn’t want to do.
But the thing is, the desires, preferences, and interests you have are exactly part of that flow. They bring you joy, which means that they are part of the Universal Flow.
It is true, sometimes we have false desires, that arise solely out of our egoic insecurity. For instance, someone might want to be a millionaire, simply because they are insecure about not having enough money. But once they surrender to the Universal Flow, they might find that they are actually more comfortable with some lesser amount, but which still means abundance to them. They don’t necessarily need a million dollars in the bank to prove their abundance to themselves or others.
However, your true, inspired desires will only get stronger, not weaker. The Universal Flow will naturally carry you towards these desires.
But in order for that to happen, you have to let go of the need of them. You have to just rest in the Universal Flow, perfectly happy with what is, noticing the perfection in the moment.
When you surrender to the Universal Flow, magic will happen, without you even intending it. On Tuesday’s Spiritual Freedom Support Call, I told the story of a synchronicity that happened to Christine and me last week.
We were about to leave on our getaway to celebrate our 5th year anniversary. Now, our pharmacy delivers our medication, because we can’t get up there to get them ourselves. We thought they might deliver this day, and we forgot to call them to tell them not to, in case we left before they arrived.
Well, the delivery guy came 2 minutes before we were about to walk out the door. If he had come a bit later, or we left a bit earlier, we would have missed him.
This is divine timing at its best! And this is the type of thing that just naturally happens all the time when we live in the Universal Flow.
I know that might seem trivial. But, when life is a series of these beautiful synchronicities, it adds up. When money shows up just as its needed, or the perfect book makes itself known to you to help you on the next part of your journey, or any number of other signs enter your life just as you need them, you soon realize that life is magic.
When we were on our getaway, a random woman, who did not know us in the least, decided to pay for our breakfast. To me, just another manifestation of magic.
Several months ago, when I wanted to learn the organ, Christine just happened to be attending a new church, and that organist agreed to let me practice. To this day, he picks me up and takes me to the church for an hour and a half, two or three times a week, to let me play the organ. Again, just another manifestation of magic.
I have tons of examples, but they really aren’t all that important. They are important to me, but you will find your own examples of magic in your life, if you look for them.
So where will the flow lead you? It’ll lead you to greater and greater manifestations of magic in your life. Imagine every day being filled with incredibly personal, meaningful demonstrations of magic—of synchronicities that didn’t need to happen the way they did. Imagine being wowed every day that the Universe came through in just the perfect way. That is life in the Universal Flow. It is never-ending joy, and brand new delights every day.
But, these delights are not necessary. They are not needed, nor are you attached to them. But, from the Universe flows this kind of magic, which is līlā, the divine sport. It happens because it can, and no other reason is necessary. It is child’s play.
You Can Still Have Anything You Desire
I can hear some people asking, “Does this mean I shouldn’t intend?”
No, not at all. This is why I call it co-creation.
The experiment I did last week was just to see what my experience would be. Now, I am back to intending regularly.
There is nothing wrong with deliberate intention. In fact, it is a natural part of who you are.
But, people coming to the law of attraction mistaken intention for attachment. They do this sort of seeking pleasure and avoiding pain, and they call it law of attraction.
But law of attraction, it is not. It is egoic striving. It is perpetuation of suffering. It is not co-creation, unless you mean the co-creation of resistance.
The law of attraction truly starts to give you magnificent results only when you let go and surrender to the natural unfolding of the Universal Flow.
This does not mean you cannot intend. It merely means that your intention is just a slight activation of vibration in pure awareness. It is effortless. It is a mere suggestion.
And, the thing is, it only takes this very light touch to get the Universal Flow moving towards this new desire. If effort is felt at all, ego is getting involved.
When driving a car, your job is to operate the controls of the car. Steer the steering wheel, hold down the pedal, etc. You don’t need to simultaneously climb under the hood and fire the pistons, or any of the other thousands of operations a car performs while you are driving. In fact, that would prohibit you from being a very effective driver.
It’s even simpler than that. Imagine you had one of those self-driving cars. You just set your destination, and sit back until you’re there. That’s more of the level of effortlessness this requires.
When you’re putting in effort with your manifestation, it’s like getting in under the hood and trying to do the Universe’s job for it. Your part is to hold the vibrational signature of the intention. The Universe’s job is, well, all the rest.
Your intentions are the driving force behind the Universal Flow, but it doesn’t need much of a force, at all. In fact, if you just sat back and didn’t intend at all, like I did for a day, it’d still bring you to greater things than you could even fathom. But, like my description of līlā above, we intend, for the fun of it. It’s all for fun. And then, when we let go, magic happens.
This Saturday, September 10, I’m holding a teleclass that will give a lot more information on how to let go of ego and surrender to the Universal Flow. If you know me, you know I’m all about practical steps. I’ll show you exactly what you need to do to truly start seeing magic in your own life.
Note: This class is now passed, but the recording is available for purchase.
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How About You?
Now it’s your turn. Have you had the experience of surrendering to the Universal Flow? I’d love to hear your experiences. Let me know your thoughts in the comments.